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    The difference between a grateful person and an ungrateful person

    An overview of grateful versus ungrateful people

    In life, all of us have one very important choice to make. And that choice is whether we want to be grateful for what we have or we can also choose to be ungrateful, be bitter and complain. We all have the free will to choose our feelings. It is important to understand that you can change your feelings from being a bitter person to becoming a more grateful person. The choice is yours to make. What is the difference between a grateful person and an ungrateful person?

    Qualities of a grateful person

    · A grateful person is happy most of the time.

    · A grateful person says Thank You for even the simplest things. This could be being thankful just for waking up in the morning and being healthy.

    · A grateful person looks at what he or she has and they really take the time to appreciate whatever they have. This is perhaps the most noticeable quality about a grateful person.

    · A grateful person is well aware that their lives don’t have to be perfect for them to feel good.

    · A grateful person is positive most of the time.

    · A grateful person has more friends.

    · A grateful person generally has fewer health issues because the more grateful and happy you are, your mind and body are in better shape.

    · A grateful person is more likely to have a more successful career. But now with the current economic situation in many countries, patience is really important to have.

    Qualities of an ungrateful person

    · An ungrateful person always looks at what is wrong about their life and focuses on that.

    · An ungrateful person complains incessantly about their job, the weather where they live and many other things.

    · An ungrateful person can never be happy because they are always bitter and negative.

    · An ungrateful person is more likely to suffer illnesses because their negative attitude will break down their body.

    · An ungrateful person will attract ungrateful people to them.

    · An ungrateful person always believes that they never get things to work out for them.

    · An ungrateful person thinks and believes that they are never good enough and so they do not have a good self-esteem.

    · An ungrateful person blames other people for their unhappiness.

    · An ungrateful person feels like a victim every time something goes wrong in their life.

    · An ungrateful person will have anger problems because they will try to convince other people that they are right and every one else is wrong. An ungrateful person never sees the positive side of things and chooses to look at the negative aspects of every situation.

    Do you see what the difference is between a grateful person and an ungrateful person? Gratitude is a positive feeling while complaining is a very negative feeling. One of these feelings makes you feel good and joyful while the other feeling makes you feel bad, bitter and negative. Which one of these feelings would you rather have? Gratitude is the better feeling and emotion to have because gratitude has proven to improve your life while complaining constantly about your life will decrease the quality of your life. It will also make you sick in the long term and it will not allow you to achieve all of your goals and become successful. So it is much better to choose to be grateful.

    Do You Love, or Do You Fear?

    “There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” ~ John Lennon

    Why is it easier for us to have negative feelings and negative thoughts than it is to have positive, loving thoughts, positive and loving feelings? Have you ever asked yourself this question? Is it maybe because we have created all that is negative, and it is easier for us to accept it and identify with it? We can accept insanity, hate and sorrow, but we can’t accept LOVE and compassion?

    LOVE is within us, we were all born with this emotion, it was given to us, that’s all there was to be given, but as time went by we started creating a new world for ourselves, a different world, a world which is nothing more than an illusion, an illusion to keep our ego alive.

    There are only two emotions in the world, only two emotions we can express, and those two emotions are FEAR and LOVE. All the other emotions with whom we are all so familiar, are nothing more than subcategories of these two. Where there is LOVE, we may have peace, joy, content, serenity, forgiveness while on the other hand, where we have hate we will have anxiety, sadness, depression, fatigue, judgment, guilt and so on. You see, where there is LOVE, fear can not survive, and where there is fear, LOVE can not survive. They can’t lead together, for only one is real, while the other is just an illusion.

    Whenever we find ourselves in a situation where we might be feeling sad, depressed, angry, judgmental etc. , we need to realize that we are in fact feeling fear, a fear of something and we also have to keep in mind that fear was created by us, fear is not real, we made it up, while on the other hand, LOVE is real, LOVE is our natural state of being, that’s who we are, that’s what created us, and that’s what’s real. So why choose FEAR when you can choose LOVE? Why do it?

    You see, it is all up to us. It’s a choice we make. We either choose LOVE or fear, happy or unhappy, and it’s all up to us. I know many of you will go:

    “What? This is insane! What do you mean it’s up to me? How can I feel LOVE when my boss is yelling at me all the time?

    How can I feel LOVE when I go home after 12 hours of work,and I see the house is a mess and my husband asking me what’s for dinner?”

    Or How can I feel LOVE when someone in this world chooses not to accept me as I am, instead they choose to pass judgement on me or discriminate against me?

    Well, it’s all in how we choose to look at the situation, whether we choose to respond or react that makes the difference. It’s our attitude toward everything that happens to us, and around us. that will take us to that state.

    I believe that it all starts falling into places the moment we decide to take responsibility for how we feel and what we think, because when you no longer blame others for your misery, that’s when you start seeing things from a different perspective, that’s the moment you begin to notice the shift that is taking place in your life.

    When you start saying yes to the universe, yes to LOVE, fear will no longer have its place in your life, for that which is loved can not be feared, and that which is feared can not be loved. These two can’t coexist, and when one is present, the other is absent. Never forget this, for it will help you on so much on your journey to self discovery.

    Life is so simple but we choose to complicate it, we choose to create all kind of problems for ourselves, and we get so attached to them. We can accept fear, loss, pain, doubt so easily, because we have created them, we have created this world of insanity and it’s hard for us to let it go.

    We say we want too, but do we really mean it? We get so attached to them and if we give them up for a while, and things get better for us, we feel peaceful, we feel LOVE… but, you see, because this state of being is so unfamiliar to us, conscious or not, we start creating all kind of problems so we can feel “normal” again. This is how things function in the real world right? In the real world life is harsh, in the real world there is poverty, there is pain and there is fear. How can we live in a world that does not exist, how can we dare to be happy when there are so many problems waiting for us out there? This is exactly what we do. Most of us, whether we realize it or not, whether we want to admit it or not, do just that.

    Being nevrotic, feeling bitter and frustrated is something normal for many of us, this is how life is supposed to be, this is how we see normality. When we see people walking on the street with a serene and cheerful face, people that walk along us smiling, we may think that they are crazy, we think that there might be something wrong with them, but what if there isn’t anything wrong with them, what if there is something wrong with us?

    “A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?” ~ Einstein

    Happiness is a choice, peace of mind is a choice, and that choice is LOVE. After years and years of polluted training, after years of being told that life is a battlefield, and you have to fight against the enemies in order to stay alive, wanting to shift your focus from all those situations and all those people that were “making you unhappy”, to finding your true self, which is pure LOVE, it’s not going to be an easy job, but believe me, it’s not going to be harder than what you were doing until now. Give up all your past beliefs and all your past limitations and look within, that’s where you will find your true nature, that’s where you will find your real self. That’s where you will find real LOVE. Look for what you really are, not for what you think you are.

    1. Don’t give up on love

    Never ever give up on love and love will not give up on you. Love is what makes the world go round, it’s the glue that holds us together. A life without love is a life empty of meaning. The moment you give up on love you give up on yourself and you give up on life.

    “Believe in love. Believe in the miracles of love. Believe in others. Believe in yourself. Believe in your dreams. If you don’t, who will?” ~ Jon Bon Jovi

    2. Don’t give up on real friendships

    What is life without honest, real and meaningful friendships? What is life without the love and companion of those who see the beauty, the greatness and the perfection that lies within you?

    Give up on meaningless friendships, forced interactions and unnecessary conversations but never give up on real and authentic friendships.

    “There are still some wonderful people left in this world! They are diamonds in the rough, but they’re around! You’ll find them when you fall down– they’re the ones who pick you up, who don’t judge, and you had to fall down to see them! When you get up again, remember who your true friends are!” ~ C. JoyBell C.

    3. Don’t give up thankfulness

    Life isn’t as bad as your mind is trying to make it and you will only be able to recognize this truth the moment you give up criticizing and complaining about the many things that are wrong with the world and start appreciating the many things that are right with it instead. Always remember that good things come to those who have a thankful heart.

    “I’m utterly convinced that the key to lifelong success is the regular exercise of a single emotional muscle: gratitude.” ~ Geoffrey James

    4. Don’t give up integrity

    Learn to “live a good life. After you are gone, you will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones.” ~ Marcus Aurelius

    When you live life with integrity and self-determination, happiness will follow you wherever you go. Make integrity one of your core values and your life will flourish more and more each day.

    5. Don’t give up hope

    No matter how many times life will hit you in the head with a brick and no matter how many times you will fall down on your knees feeling lost, abandoned and defeated, never give up hope. You never know when the tide will turn and the Sun will shine on your street once again.

    “No. Don’t give up hope just yet. It’s the last thing to go. When you have lost hope, you have lost everything. And when you think all else is lost, when all else is dire and bleak, there left is always hope.” ~ Pittacus Lore

    6. Don’t give up on your dreams

    Dreams have the power to make you really happy and keep you fully alive. Dreams are food for your soul. A life without dreams is a life with no soul.

    Don’t settle for less than you are worth. Dare to dream big. “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars.” ~ Les Brown

    7. Don’t give up believing in yourself

    Believe in yourself and all that you are because if you don’t, chances are that the world around you won’t believe in you either. You are all that you’ve got, your biggest and greatest asset. Learn to “love yourself—accept yourself—forgive yourself—and be good to yourself, because without you the rest of us are without a source of many wonderful things.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia

    8. Don’t give up your authenticity

    Life is too short to waste it on pretending to be something you are not. Embrace the real you, your beautiful and authentic self and never let other people define who you are. No matter what they say or do, *Always remember that an original is worth a lot more than a copy.* Be very proud to Identify your true self by being uniquely you and not by falsifying or counterfeiting someone else. If not, you have lost your true identity or you have committed identity theft. If so, find out who YOU yourself uniquely are and be just that. ALLOW THE GOOD YOU TO OUTWARDLY SHOW AND BRIGHTLY SHINE.

    “Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” ~ Judy Garland

    9. Don’t give up kindness

    Offer your love and support to those who need and ask for it. Be kind to all living beings, not necessary because they deserve it but because you do. Give with an open heart without expecting anything in return. Why? Because giving is a sign of having and the more you give the more life will give back to you.

    “When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.” ~ The 14th Dalai Lama

    10. Don’t give up simplicity

    Living in a constant chase to acquire more stuff, more power, more friends, more money and more of everything is exhausting. You think you’re in control when in fact the things you are chasing after are the ones controlling you. Let go of clutter, whether it is mental, emotional or material and let simplicity govern your life. Happiness comes to those who live a simple life, to those who know that less is more and that quality is better than quantity.

    “As you simplify your life, the laws of the universe will be simpler; solitude will not be solitude, poverty will not be poverty, nor weakness weakness.” ~ Henry David Thoreau

    11. Don’t give up your playful spirit

    Let go of all thoughts of limitations about how you should or should not behave based on how old you are. Age is nothing but a number, “an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” ~ Mark Twain

    We all have an inner child that wants to come out and play so why not let him or her play? Be playful, be childlike. Have fun in all that you do. Laugh until your belly hurts and then laugh some more.Why take life so seriously? Why take yourself so seriously? A playful life is a happy life and those who give up playfulness give up happiness. There is a time and a season for everything.

    12. Don’t give up faith in humanity

    There are plenty of people in this world who act in horrifying and monstrous ways towards themselves and those around them but that doesn’t mean you and I should give up our faith in humanity because of them.

    “You must not lose faith in humanity. Humanity is like an ocean; if a few drops of the ocean are dirty, the entire ocean does not become dirty.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi

    13. Don’t give up your vulnerability

    Contrary to what you were led to believe, vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but of great strength. Hold on to it. Don’t let it go. Never be afraid to open your heart to those around you. Let them see into your naked soul.

    “We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.” ~ Brené Brown

    14. Don’t give up your humility

    No matter how far you go in life and no matter how successful you might become, promise yourself to “never look down on anybody unless you’re helping him up.” ~ Jesse Jackson

    Humility is the path to greatness, your key to a happier life. To have a humble heart is to have a noble heart. Don’t give up your noble heart.

    15. Don’t give up on your ability to forgive

    People will lie to you, they will use, mistreat and abuse you, but that doesn’t mean you should continue their work by holding on to poisonous thoughts of hate and resentment. Fill your heart with love and grace. Forgive and let go. Let go of bitterness and resentment but never of love and forgiveness.

    “When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.” ~ Catherine Ponder

    Let go of what makes you unhappy, hold on to that which makes you happy and watch your life transform.

    What are some of the things you would want to let go in order to be happy? How about the things you would want to hold on in order to be happy?

    John 3:16 King James Version (KJV)

    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.

    For God so loved the world - Such a love as that which induced God to give his only begotten son to die for the world could not be described: Jesus Christ does not attempt it. He has put an eternity of meaning in the particle so, and left a subject for everlasting contemplation, wonder, and praise, to angels and to men. The same evangelist uses a similar mode of expression, 1 John 3:1 : Behold, What Manner of love, the Father hath bestowed upon us.

    First, The world was in a ruinous, condemned state, about to perish everlastingly; and was utterly without power to rescue itself from destruction.

    Secondly, That God, through the impulse of his eternal love, provided for its rescue and salvation, by giving his Son to die for it.

    Thirdly, That the sacrifice of Jesus was the only mean by which the redemption of man could be effected, and that it is absolutely sufficient to accomplish this gracious design: for it would have been inconsistent with the wisdom of God, to have appointed a sacrifice greater in itself, or less in its merit, than what the urgent necessities of the case required.

    Fourthly, That sin must be an indescribable evil, when it required no less a sacrifice, to make atonement for it, than God manifested in the flesh.

    Fifthly, That no man is saved through this sacrifice, but he that believes, i.e. who credits what God has spoken concerning Christ, his sacrifice, the end for which it was offered, and the way in which it is to be applied in order to become effectual.

    Sixthly, That those who believe receive a double benefit:

    1. They are exempted from eternal perdition - that they may not perish.

    2. They are brought to eternal glory - that they may have everlasting life. These two benefits point out tacitly the state of man: he is guilty, and therefore exposed to punishment: he is impure, and therefore unfit for glory.

    They point out also the two grand operations of grace, by which the salvation of man is effected.

    1. Justification, by which the guilt of sin is removed, and consequently the person is no longer obnoxious to perdition.

    2. Sanctification, or the purification of his nature, by which he is properly fitted for the kingdom of glory.

    Barnes' Notes on John 3:16

    For God so loved - This does not mean that God approved the conduct of men, but that he had benevolent feelings toward them, or was "earnestly desirous" of their happiness. God hates wickedness, but he still desires the Happiness of those who are sinful. "He hates the sin, but loves the sinner." A parent may love his child and desire his welfare, and yet be strongly opposed to the conduct of that child. When we approve the conduct of another, this is the love of complacency; when we desire simply their happiness, this is the love of benevolence.

    The world - All mankind. It does not mean any particular part of the world, but man as man - the race that had rebelled and that deserved to die. See John 6:33; John 17:21. His love for the world, or for all mankind, in giving his Son, was shown by these circumstances:

    1. All the world was in ruin, and exposed to the wrath of God.

    2. All people were in a hopeless condition.

    3. God gave his Son. Man had no claim on him; it was a gift - an undeserved gift.

    4. He gave him up to extreme sufferings, even the bitter pains of death on the cross.

    5. It was for all the world. He tasted "death for every man," Hebrews 2:9. He "died for all," 2 Corinthians 5:15. "He is the propitiation for the sins of the whole world," 1 John 2:2.

    That he gave - It was a free and unmerited gift. Man had no claim: and when there was no eye to pity or arm to save, it pleased God to give his Son into the hands of men to die in their stead, Galatians 1:4; Romans 8:32; Luke 22:19. It was the mere movement of love; the expression of eternal compassion, and of a desire, that sinners should not perish forever.

    His only-begotten Son - See the notes at John 1:14. This is the highest expression of love of which we can conceive. A parent who should give up his only son to die for others who are guilty if this could or might be done - would show higher love than could be manifested in any other way. So it shows the depth of the love of God, that he was willing. to give his only Son into the hands of sinful men that he might be slain, and thus redeem them from eternal sorrow.

    Matthew 5 ►

    King James Bible

    The Sermon on the Mount

    1And seeing the multitudes, he went up into a mountain: and when he was set, his disciples came unto him: 2And he opened his mouth, and taught them, saying,

    The Beatitudes

    (Psalm 1:1-6; Luke 6:20-23)

    3Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

    4Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

    5Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth.

    6Blessed are they which do hunger and thirst after righteousness: for they shall be filled.

    7Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy.

    8Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God.

    9Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.

    10Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.

    11Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake. 12Rejoice, and be exceeding glad: for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the prophets which were before you.

    Salt and Light

    (Philippians 2:12-18)

    13Ye are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? it is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.

    14Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. 15Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. 16Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

    Love Your Enemies

    (Leviticus 24:17-23; Luke 6:27-36)

    38Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: 39But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also. 41And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain. 42Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.

    43Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. 44But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; 45That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. 46For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? 47And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? 48Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.


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