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  • The Power Of Gratitude

    Discover How and Why The Power Of Gratitude Opens the Floodgates and Unleashes an Infinite and Unlimited Flow of Abundance And Happiness Into Every...Yes EVERY Aspect of Your Life...Bar None

    Choosing and developing an attitude of sincere and "heartfelt gratitude"

    for your current blessings unconditionally, unleashes the power

    for receiving many more. Every Day Give Thanks.

    Consciously utilizing The Power Of Gratitude is not only an important life skill to learn and master, it's an extremely important aspect of consciously and consistently attracting to yourself the Abundance and Happiness that we all desire, aspire toward and without exception deserve to experience in life.

    With that in mind, take a moment to think about and ponder on the following...

    What Are YOU Truly and Deeply Grateful For?

    The reason asked, is due to the simple and unwavering fact that deeply felt, emotionally charged and consistently expressed sentiments of gratitude serve as the catalyst for profound, seemingly magical and what's often referred to as miraculous transformation in life.

    The fact of the matter is, The Power of Gratitude can and often does, transform results in the "blink of an eye."

    Can only guess you desire to be, do and/or have more of something that you're not currently experiencing in your life, right? And you want it as quickly, simply and easily as is humanly possible too, correct?

    There's your answer. Initiating the Power of Gratitude is as simple or complex as YOU choose to "allow it" to be.

    There's really no need to know or understand all the intricacies of HOW or WHY the Power of Gratitude works as it does.

    That’s all been “figured out” already. The plan, the systems and the processes that ensure The Power of Gratitude NEVER misses is already in place. Now it's only a matter of you "consciously and intentionally aligning and harmonizing with what IS in place, so you might EXPERIENCE The Power of Gratitude for yourself in a very up close and personal kind of way.

    To KNOW just how "true" that is in a personally experiential kind of way, requires nothing more or less than making a "conscious choice" to take the "time" to learn about how and why the Power of Gratitude is so powerful, master it and DO IT each and every day.

    The tangible and measurable evidence that the Power of Gratitude brings into the physical, financial, relational, mental, emotional and/or spiritual aspects of your life will reveal themselves.

    Once you've grasped, adopted and adapted to the Higher Truth regarding the power of your perceptions, whether it be perceptions of gratitude or it's polar opposite, "ungratefulness".

    What is gratitude? It's a state of mind based on and ignited by beliefs, correct? What is ungratefulness? It too is nothing more or less than a state of mind based on and ignited by belief.

    Whether it be The Power of Gratitude or The Power of Ungratefulness, both exist initially as a "state of mind." Both are "intangible" in nature and both reside in the same space. In the same way, they both provide tangible and measurable results in EVERY aspect of our lives.

    If I choose to focus on and give attention to what I am grateful for rather than what's wrong in my life, or what I don't have, what state of mind am I choosing?

    ALL THINGS in the tangible world of shape and form began as a thought, an idea, a conceptualization. It doesn't matter if it's a feeling, an emotion or a tangible object such as the computer you're looking at right now.

    Anything and EVERYTHING in the world BEGAN, finds its root in and can be traced back to, a specific quality of consciousness!!.

    A quality of consciousness consistently focused on being broke or "poor" can, will and does reveal itself as a tangible and measurable outcome that mirrors that chosen quality of consciousness PRECISELY.

    The opposite also holds true. Point being; EVERYTHING begins in the mind and everything on the "outside" is a mirrired reflection of YOUR state of mind.

    Whether it's consciously utilizing the Power of Gratitude for what you currently have, hold a sincere desire to have at some future point in time, or unconsciously utilizing the Power of Ungratefulness based on the appearance of how things are, the very same concept holds true, the very same power is unleashed and the very same creative process attracts and provides whatever you might be choosing, to you...unconditionally.

    The kind and quality of these 2 varying "states of mind" are without question different in quality, yet both are a construct of mind, initiate the creative process and provide, without fail, tangible and measurable results.

    That's really and truly all you need to know and "consciously DO" to consciously enact the Power of Gratitude in EVERY aspect of your life.

    Are you the kind of person that requires knowing the mechanics of as well as how or why the Power of Gratitude works as it does?

    Read on...

    The Power of Gratitude Has A Spiritually Based as Well as a Sound Scientific Explanation

    First, let's explore how sincere gratefulness works from a strictly scientific perspective and how, through our individual choice to develop a consistent habit of focusing on and expressing "heartfelt gratitude" for what we have or what we may desire to have in the future, enacts the immutable, unwavering and All Encompassing power of Universal Law in a pleasing and desirable kind of way and without fail draws (or attracts) more for you to be grateful for.

    As I've covered in depth, the Law of Vibration , everything within our universe broken down into it's purest and most basic form is a vibrating mass of atoms and subatomic particles. (Energy or light) Through the Law of Attraction , the energy (vibrations) that you resonate and project based on your thoughts, feelings, and emotions determines your individually projected "vibrational frequency" which broadcasts and projects that frequency into what modern day scientists refer to as "the field", or as the more spiritually minded might refer to as the Kingdom. attracts to it energy or vibrational frequencies that harmonize or resonate with it which transmutes from waves of energy into particles of matter, determining with laser like precision, the events, situations, and circumstances that you attract and eventually see and experience as they manifest into tangible and measurable form in your life.

    What does that have to do with the Power Of Gratitude?

    Absolutely Everything!

    When you are in a sincere state of gratitude your energy (vibrational resonance) is one of acceptance and harmony. You resonate, and as a result project a much higher vibrational frequency which is exactly what attracts to you the events, conditions, and circumstances that you desire.

    To provide more clarity on the resonance created and projected by focusing on and consistently choosing an attitude of gratitude, consider the following analogy...

    Think of yourself as a giant magnet. Whatever you are feeling, whether it be love, fear, anger, happiness, anger, joy, gratitude, resistance etc. you are in essence creating and projecting a magnetic force that attracts and draws to you events, conditions and circumstances which are in direct correlation to what you are feeling. Fear of something creates a magnetic force that can attract more of what you fear. Expressing Gratitude for any situation projects a magnetic force that draws to you more of what you are expressing gratitude for.

    In other words enabling and allowing yourself to transition into and remain in a state of gratitude puts you in harmonious alignment and at the same time, emits and projects a vibrational resonance which attracts additional energies the same in kind and quality as the deeply felt emotion of gratitude projected.

    At any time that you are NOT expressing gratitude for an outcome and judging it as you are in essence resisting the outcome which places your focus and attention on NOT WANTING that outcome. When this happens what are your thoughts and emotions fixated on? What you DON"T want, correct? That focus of NOT wanting also creates, emits and projects a "magnetic force" of a different kind and quality, which only serves to draw to you more of that which you are NOT WANTING or resisting.

    Let's look at the difference between expressing gratitude and choosing a state of resistance in your day to day life...

    When you experience an outcome that you find displeasing and you choose to fight or resist whatever it might be that's happening in your life at any given moment you are actually creating resistance, which puts you in a disharmonious vibration with the thing desired, or a lower vibrational frequency, and we all know what begins to happen then, don't we? You resonate with and begin to attract the dis-harmonious events, conditions and circumstances into your life that you are resisting. As mentioned above, you are drawing to you or attracting through your chosen "magnetic force" the polar opposite of what you have a sincere and conscious desire to experience.

    Resistance is placing focus and attention on what you would rather NOT have happening which is in essence creating and projecting a magnetic force (an asking of sorts) which is drawing to you what it is that you are placing your predominant focus on (resisting) and have NO conscious desire to experience.

    This quality of focus, and placing unnecessary ATTENTION on it, states your INTENTION to whatever the Source of your understanding might be and can only serve to draw more of that which you are focusing on and giving attention to.

    Gratitude on the other hand is an acceptance of things just the way they are which correlates with acceptance; a surrendering of sorts which in turn resonates and projects a much different resonance of energy creating yet another magnetic force that aligns, harmonizes with and is conducive to attracting the "consciously desired" outcome.

    A common question that comes up is......

    "How in the world can I be in a state of gratitude when everything seems to be going wrong? Let's dig down a bit deeper, analyze this a little further and you'll have a crystal clear understanding of what is actually happening.

    First of all it's important to recognize the importance of accepting responsibility for whatever is going on in your life. As we've covered in The Power Of Thoughts , the events, conditions and circumstances that you're currently experiencing are manifestations based on thoughts and emotions that you've chosen at some point in the past. It's due to those thoughts and emotions which represent the seeds, that you are experiencing whatever outcome you currently are.

    Remember, you are the one that thinks your thoughts. Your thoughts do not think you. In the same way, the emotions ignited and experienced as a result of the kind and quality of the thoughts that YOU choose, serve as a gauge and are a reflection of the quality of thoughts that you are thinking.

    Since your current outcomes are based on what you have thought and felt at some point in the past and those outcomes are now being experienced in your life, guess who created them?

    YOU did!! Although that may not make you feel any better about them just yet based on what you're SEEING and experiencing now, consider this...

    Since it is you that is responsible for attracting and creating "undesirable outcomes, then isn't it also just as possible to change the kind and quality of your chosen thoughts and at the same time the emotions which follow which are responsible for attracting and creating the "less than desired" which will shift the kind and quality of the attraction and produce the desired result?

    Absolutely!!

    Which is WHY it's SO vitally important to use your inherent abilities to consciously and consistently utilize the Power of Gratitude in EACH and EVERY area of your life.

    Simply recognizing the fact that you are responsible for attracting and bringing whatever event, condition, circumstance, person, etc into your life in and of itself provides you with a dramatically enhanced awareness and understanding of your creative power which in and of itself can and hopefully WILL instill a sense of gratitude that you've been provided the choice as well as the ability to discern, decide and determine what you will create for your life from this day forward.

    Although prior to understanding how this process works you were in essence "unconsciously attracting and creating", now you can begin to "consciously attract and create" (or if you prefer co-create) more to express sincere and heartfelt gratitude for.

    Once you fully grasp and understand that your current experiences here and now are merely guideposts showing you that you are either on the desired path of creating your consciously desired outcomes or that you need to make some minor adjustments in your thought processes that created them, you will become better enabled and more empowered to express heartfelt gratitude for whatever is currently happening in your life recognizing the fact that YOU created it.

    Sure...you could get mad at yourself, choose to be upset and perhaps even become fearful. But what energy are you resonating, emitting and projecting by making that less than empowering choice?

    NOT the kind or quality that will attract your consciously desired outcomes for sure.

    Your perception of something going wrong is only your perception, that is all. A misguided or misdirected perception unconsciously projected based on false beliefs and a lack of understanding that EVERYTHING unfolds in your life perfectly just as you choose and instruct never has, never can and NEVER WILL change the Higher Truth that "As you believe you receive."

    In the bigger scheme of things, Nothing EVER goes "wrong." EVERY effect is derived from a cause and that EFFECT is always in alignment and resonance with the CAUSE. Belieivng and perceiving anything less, is only based on a lack of deeper understanding concerning the process of creation and the unerring cycles that sustain it.

    It may very well be that you "believe and perceive" something as being random, chaotic and/or going wrong. The process of creation NEVER errs, wavers, discerns or judges. It is, has been and always will be perfect, precise and unfailing 100% of the time.

    It is only unconsciously and misdirected thought and unconsciously and misdirected perceptions often judged and labeled as being WRONG thoughts or WRONG perceptions that are responsible for igniting less than desirable emotions that attract creations that show up in your life in the form of events, conditions and circumstances that so many (and perhaps even you) believe and perceive as being or "going wrong."

    It's important to recognize and express sincere and heartfelt gratitude for the fact that EVERYTHING in your life is unfolding, producing and providing a miracle; a magnificent creation that YOU yourself created and have the power to change ANYTIME you choose to do so.

    The process of creation, regardless of what you might currently "believe to be true" and how you might perceive it is ALWAYS 100% of the time 24/7/365 producing an infinite number of miracles all around us.

    Learn to recognize that fact, consciously initiate The Power of Gratitude by expressing sincere and heartfelt gratitude for the irrevocable and profoundly amazing gift you've been provided to determine the kind and quality of EVERY miracle in your life and you will begin to see the transformational and life enhancing role that the Power of Gratitude plays in creating MUCH more to be grateful for.

    Those miracles (creations) which show up that aren't in alignment and harmony with your consciously desired outcomes are merely signs that require nothing more and nothing less than very simple and very subtle adjustments within yourself.

    When you fully grasp and internalize this Higher Truth and understand the importance of learning to express heartfelt gratitude for WHATEVER signs that you may have mis-created or "unconsciously created" in the past and make the commitment to yourself to begin looking for, seeing and expressing the good consistently, you'll clearly SEE both how and why The Power of Gratitude NEVER errs, wavers or misses it's mark.

    You'll KNOW in an experiential kind of way, that you have been freely provided with all you could possibly need to change and redirect the thoughts, emotions and perceptions which brought whatever it might be into your life.

    Your perceptions regarding any event, condition or circumstance are only based on a memory of something in the past that is stored in your subconscious mind and can be consciously changed if you discover that it is not in harmony with what you have a desire to accomplish.

    For example, let's look at two people with totally different perceptions regarding the same situation, and see first hand what an attitude of gratitude is, and isn't.

    This analogy will validate the old saying that "There's a silver lining in EVERY cloud." That's MUCH more true than most understand.

    Let's say that you wake up on a Saturday morning after a good nights rest. You've worked hard all week and you're really looking forward to getting outside and playing in a golf tournament that you had entered, and enjoying your weekend of R&R. You're feeling pretty good about the day ahead of you. You make your coffee and head for the window to open the blinds. You get them opened up and look out the window. ARGGHHHHHH, it's raining outside!

    Next, your self talk kicks in and it goes something like this. "Oh man, my whole day is ruined. I was planning on doing this and that and now I can't. Why do things always have to happen like that? Another weekend shot! I can't ever get a break!"

    Obviously your perception is that everything went wrong and your whole weekend is ruined. Based on your thought pattern and perception, your right, it is. Unless you are able to change that perception, you'll allow yourself to have a less than desirable weekend. In fact, by remaining in this state, you will literally attract additional events, conditions, and circumstances to you that will make Certain that you have a less than desirable weekend!

    This is a classic case of resistance, or ungratefulness. No silver lining here right?

    Now let's take a look at the neighbor down the street who always seems to have things going his way. Let's imagine it's the same scenario. He has worked all week and made plans to play in the same golf tournament that you were entered in.

    He walks to the window, opens the shades and sees exactly the same situation that you did when you opened them except, although he initially has a little disappointment because he can't go to the golf tournament he was planning on, he decides that there is nothing he can do to change the situation and begins his habitual thought process and self talk which goes something like this...

    "Boy I sure was looking forward to that golf tournament. Oh well, I've got a few things that need to get done around here today anyway. That means I don't have to water the grass for a few days and that will sure save a little on my water bill. It's been a few weeks since it rained and we sure needed it."

    Although the person in the second example was a little disappointed initially, a conscious decision was made that wouldn't allow it to ruin the entire weekend and shifted the focus to something more positive and productive.

    This is a classic case of remaining in gratitude, regardless. No resistance, no allowing undesired emotions to ignite and the end result is a harmonious vibration.

    Do you see what I mean about perception? Same situation, different people, different perception, different outcome.

    Although that's a "physical" example, it conveys from that perspective how varying perceptions can create completely opposite experiences.

    When you have developed a crystal clear understanding that all things work for the greater good no matter how seemingly bad things may appear, it becomes much easier to stay in a state of gratitude.

    When you are able to fully develop that awareness, (and with a little practice, you will) not only is it an extremely freeing experience, but you are setting your self up for a much greater flow of Abundance and Happiness being attracted and coming into your life...EVERY area of your life! When the Universe sees that you are grateful for what you have, it will send you more.

    This is exactly how Universal Laws operate. The universe doesn't perceive anything as good or bad, it only sends outcomes to you based on your vibrational resonance, and your attitude concerning any given thing is exactly what determines that vibrational resonance.

    God, Universal Consciousness, Super-Conscious Mind or whatever you perceive Source to be, loves each person unconditionally exactly the same and only delivers to each precisely what we are asking for, based on our individually chosen vibrational output. If that output resonates anger, fear, doubt, worry etc. the vibrational resonance that you're projecting communicates and the universe perceives that you are asking for outcomes based on that output, and that is exactly what you'll receive!

    As spiritual text states it..."As you sow, so shall you reap."

    On the other hand, by learning to consciously direct your thoughts, control the emotions that determine that output, and developing the ability to remain in a state of Gratitude regardless of what the situation may temporarily consist of, your vibrational output or magnetically attractive force is conducive to attracting outcomes that are in vibrational resonance with Gratitude and you can only attract to you the events, conditions and circumstances that are in alignment with Gratitude. Positive and Desired Outcomes!

    We can't possibly control everything that is going on around us in the world but we can most certainly control ourselves and how we perceive what's going on in the world around us.

    The unwavering systems (Universal Laws) have been put into place, and you only need to learn to operate consciously, intentionally, purposefully in alignment and harmony with what you desire, which will allow you to attract the Abundance and Happiness that you and everyone else DOES desire.

    Developing an attitude of gratitude is one of the most important and ESSENTIAL things that you can do for attracting and manifesting the things that you desire into your life. In fact, if you have a desire to consistently attract desired outcomes, it's not only important and essential, it's NECESSARY that you do!

    "The hardest arithmetic to master is that which enables us to count our blessings." Eric Hoffer

    Action Steps To Develop Your Attitude Of Gratitude

    Ok, now that you have a feel for the importance of expressing gratitude in your day to day outcomes, regardless of what they are, let's explore a few ways to develop an attitude of gratitude that will positively effect what you see manifest in your life everyday.

    By focusing on and compiling a list of the things that you are grateful for in your life actually accomplishes a few extremely effective things at the same time.

    #1 It allows you to bring into your conscious awareness the good things that are happening in your life on a day to day basis, and with repetition, will take your focus off of what you perceive as the negative aspects of any situation.

    It's purpose is to put you more into a mindset of finding that you really do have good, positive things happening to you in all areas of your life, and shifts the focus off of what you perceive to be negative.

    In essence it is a conscious choice to focus on gratitude rather than choosing what the mass majority does which is "unconsciously" allowing their thoughts, emotions and focus to run wild all the while believing that their a victim of circumstance rather than a creator of circumstance.

    It's no secret that life can deal what "appears" and is often "perceived" to be a bad hand sometimes, but if you will look hard for it, you can find the good in any situation. Sometimes the answer isn't readily available, but just the knowing that all things happen for the greater good, is enough to keep you from falling into resistance, and keep it from getting worse.

    #2 By shifting the focus off of only the negative aspect of a situation, you are able to see more clearly the positive things that can come out of this situation, which in turn puts you into more of a vibrational state that will attract the things that you desire.

    #3 While you are doing this procedure, it is automatically rewriting the negative script that through repetition, you have allowed to be written in your subconscious and replacing it with positive and productive scripting that will deliver to you, more positive and productive outcomes.

    Technique #1 : The Mental Gratitude List

    By developing the discipline to practice this technique every day, you will find that it becomes easier and easier to do, and the results, meaning the attraction of more to express gratitude for, will be dramatic.

    There are actually several ways that you can do gratitude exercises. Personally I find what works best for me is to mentally go over my list of things to be grateful for as I meditate . The reason this is such an effective method is because during meditation, your brain wave activity is lowered dramatically into an alpha state, which allows the affirmations to penetrate deeper into the subconscious portion of your mind, and has a quicker, deeper, and longer lasting effect with less effort.

    If your not into the meditation thing, you can also go over a mental list as you do the things that relax you, such as working in the garden, walking in the park, going fishing, or whatever relaxation activities that you do.

    It's not nearly as important precisely how you do your gratitude exercises as it is that you make certain to do them.

    You'll find that doing your gratitude work consistently delivers results more quickly, and is much more effective if you can do it while you are in a more relaxed state of mind.

    If you are at a place where you are totally unable to quiet your mind and anxious most of the time, you may find the next method to be more effective, initially.

    Technique #2 : The Written Out Gratitude List

    This method is equally as effective and actually accomplishes the same end result as the first technique.

    Just take out a piece of paper and make a hand written list of the things that you can think of that you are grateful for. Think deeply about each area of your life and begin to write in detail the good things that come to your mind as you write.

    Don't fight it or strain attempting to come up with things, just "allow" them to flow.

    Depending on your particular situation, you may find that it's hard to come up with things to be grateful for initially, so dig deep and things will begin to flow. Make sure though that you are finding and writing things that you are sincerely grateful for. If the emotion isn't there, the result won't be either.

    Utilize this technique in whatever area of your life you are working on, regardless if it's money, health, relationships, or all three. It is extremely powerful and with practice and persistence you will begin to see circumstances begin to change almost magically.

    Make a commitment to yourself that you will do this at least once per day and stick to that commitment. It doesn't have to take a long time. Even 5 minutes is better than not at all. Put into it the time that you can spare, but make sure you do it every day.

    You'll be pleased with the results.

    There are a few quotes that come to mind with regard to gratitude and the power that it has.

    One is...

    "When you are grateful fear disappears and abundance appears" -Anthony Robbins

    Another is...

    When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." - Wayne Dyer

    And an even more powerful one that provides VERY specific instruction with regard to gratitude is...

    "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." -The Bible-Phil 4:6-7 NKJV

    "Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation." -Brian Tracy

    The bottom line is that gratitude plays an extremely important role in beginning to consciously and intentionally create desired outcomes in your life...EXTREMELY important!!

    Hope that you'll think about this and choose gratitude for yourself. It will make ALL the difference.

    Encouraging you to develop your understanding with regard to the importance of gratitude and how from a "deeper perspective" it does serve to mold and shape a far more pleasing quality of life.

    Gratitude Quotes

    "At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." -Albert Schweitzer

    "He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has." - Epictetus

    "Go to foreign countries and you will get to know the good things one possesses at home." - Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

    "Life without thankfulness is devoid of love and passion. Hope without thankfulness is lacking in fine perception. Faith without thankfulness lacks strength and fortitude. Every virtue divorced from thankfulness is maimed and limps along the spiritual road." -John Henry Jowett

    “For each new morning with its light, For rest and shelter of the night, For health and food, for love and friends, For everything Thy goodness sends.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

    “Silent gratitude isn't much use to anyone.” -G.B. Stern

    “God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say "thank you?" -William A. Ward

    "No one is as capable of gratitude as one who has emerged from the kingdom of night." -Elie Wiesel

    "Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic"

    - John Henry Jowett

    "If you want to turn your life around, try thankfulness. It will change your life mightily." - Gerald Good

    "Feeling grateful or appreciative of someone or something in your life actually attracts more of the things that you appreciate and value into your life." -Christiane Northrup

    “Appreciation can make a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” -Margaret Cousins

    "Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation."

    -Brian Tracy

    “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” -William Arthur Ward

    “To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude.” -Albert Schweitzer

    “Let's be grateful for those who give us happiness; they are the charming gardeners who make our soul bloom.” - Marcel Proust

    “Saying thank you is more than good manners. It is good spirituality.” - Alfred Painter

    "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God."

    -The Bible Phil 4:6 NKJV

    "As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them." - John F. Kennedy

    "If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice." - Meister Eckhart

    "Gratitude is merely the secret hope of further favors." - François Duc de La Rochefoucauld

    "I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder." - G.K. Chesterton

    "If a fellow isn't thankful for what he's got, he isn't likely to be thankful for what he's going to get." - Frank A. Clark

    "Gratitude is the fairest blossom which springs from the soul." - Henry Ward Beecher

    Gratitude, I Martha Wooden, also have to be reminded of this just as anyone else when the opposite feeling tries to creep in somehow. My two kids and I are very blessed and I know for certain that we are and have always been inspite of some of the challenges that may come and go. Challenges can help us learn as well as grow into a wiser and more mature person having the opportunity to gain a much better understanding about life in general and all that may end up entering and exiting our lives, rather good or bad.

    I chose a profession that is very demanding and at times requires an huge amount of my time, a higher tolerance level and much patience.

    My tolerance and my patience level can get a little low, I have to pray and take time out to relax in order to recharge. I always try to keep a very positive attitude, no matter what. I execute my job very well. The company I am currently employed by has several office locations in AZ. The office I work out of is our Phoenix Office which is the companys largest office with the most clientele and employees. I work with 3 other women in this Office and we are responsible for successfully running the entire operation of this company for the surrounding geographic areas in which we target. The owner of the company sets high standards for each office. We each are assigned our individual tasks as well as working together as a team to help run a successful company. We attend various invitation only networking events. Managing, supervising, major office skills, excellent communication skills, sales expertise, marketing, public relations, problem solver, empathy, passion, wisdom, competitive, counseling skills, time management, multi-tasking, organization, confidence, boldness, ambition, motivation, hard-worker, go-getter, much patience, high level of tolerance, mental focus, high energy level, attentiveness, team player, professional attitude, firm and much more is needed to run a successful operation. I am so very grateful to God that I can get along with anyone and know how to help make working together with anyone go well. Oh we do bump heads and can get on each others nerves some times, but our focus stays on what needs to be done on a daily basis. This job and the work load can create a stressful and uptight environment if you do not know how to deal correctly. I try to set the tone whenever I am there inside the Office, helping to create and maintain an easy going peaceful, harmonious and at times humorous atmosphere.

    Each individual staff in our Phoenix Office has their own unique personalities and expertise which brings what is needed to the company. During one of our quartely lunch meetings with the owner of the company, she was discussing the near future goals for the company for the next 10 years and she mentioned that on next year in 2017 she wants to start a company in Florida. She asked me if I wanted to move to Florida to help run the company. She caught me off guard, I was not expecting her to ask that. While in a little shock my reply to her was that I have a daughter who has 2 more years in high school here in AZ and after she graduates from H.S. and goes to college I would be ready and more prepared to move anywhere in this world. My daughter is currently a Junior in high school, so I have until 2018. The owner probably thought that I would be excited and would say yes, but I couldn't. Again I thought about this later but still my kids come first. Every decision that is made for my life is based around my childrens lives. The job offer and move would include a relocation allowance, a pay raise and an increase in responsibility, in which I of course would have loved to have received, but currently this is not the right time. If this offer still stands in two more years, the answer could maybe end up being yes. At one time in my life I was very interested in moving to Florida. I have already informed my children that after Joy graduates from high school and goes to college that I was going to move to Hawaii. Whatever is meant to be, will be.

    I am so very glad to be me. I live only 5 minutes from the Office, I am able to leave and return to the office if my daughter calls and needs me, because her school is less than 10mins from the office and from where we live. So I do have a bit of freedom where I work, my daughter has a full schedule with everything she is involved in and she seems to think that I should be able to leave work at whatever time she needs me to in order to meet her demanding needs. I have to remind my daughter and my son that my work schedule is from 8am-5pm, but they seem to not care. I was offered a job in Mesa, AZ, but i had to turn it down because it is too far from my daughters school. I have to be able to quickly get to her whenever I need to. The job offer was an increase in pay working for a newer company in the same profession, I was offered this job twice. And again the owner of that company recently reached out to me for the third time, but everything is now placed on hold, until further notice. I have once more again considered, but the travel time is too far. I will wait to hear what she will offer when or if she is ready to move forward.

    My job challenges my greatest character traits, which I stand firm on continuing to allow myself to possess. The work assignments also helps improve my inborn talents and professional skills (which are valuable assets). The owners expectations are very high, which is excellent because if I didn't have a job that constantly challenges my abilities it wouldn't feel rewarding and for me it would be a boring profession. Although this job is very demanding, interferes in my personal life and makes me want to quit several times, I do love what I do when I do it, it is a very rewarding profession with a feeling of purpose. Providing help making an impact on the lives of others who truly need it. She has been generous enough to give us bonuses when we have reached our targeted office quota, also during our christmas party for our staff and employees, in which she also attends and also during the companys yearly aniversary celebration event which on this year in May, we celebrated the companys 10th year. We were also recently informed that we each will be getting our individual work production bonus. I am hoping that this will happen soon, because each care coordinator in each of the offices are the ones who are responsible for increasing the companys clientele (among doing a million other things), which helps grow this company. And we each are expected and required to increase the clientele on a weekly basis. Anyway, I invited my sister to the celebration event, we had a wonderful time, although my sister made me extremely late for the event, because I decided to car pool. I was so very embarassed walking in there as late as we did, good thing I still know how to make a grand entrance turning the focus in another direction. I was not expecting the bonus she gave each of us from our Phoenix office on that night. The bonuses are great whenever they are given, but I still want a monthly pay increase. It does make me feel grateful that my light is shinning bright and that I am being noticed for the skills I truly possess which is an asset to the success and growth process of her company. So very grateful.

    One of our common things is that we are all single women with children who are still in school. Two of us are currently separated from our spouses and are getting a divorce. Not something that I want to have in common with anyone, indeed an unfortunate situation, but I am long over feeling embarassed about getting a divorce. I am currently separated and getting a divorce. I have been separated from my husband for 2 years and 4 months now, he is taking his time with starting the divorce process. Since the day of the separation I have been at the point of no return, no looking nor going back. My children had to recover from the separation, they have no doubt come a long way and it was not very easy for them at the beginning. They both dealt with it very differently from the other. It broke my heart to watch them suffer to try to accept a decision that was not at all made by them. Life does go on but the direction in which our lives will go in was going to be determined by the quick decisions that finally had to be made by me their mom when it was time for both parents to go in their separate directions. The separation was not a decision that was made over night, it was for a long time coming. Both of my parents thought that I was going to move back to Chicago and so did my childrens dad. What reason would I need to move back to Chicago, I have established a life for my children here in AZ and i was determined along with having a little fear going to continue to our lives here. I am so very grateful that I had enough courage and faith to move forward in making the right decision to continue our lives here in Arizona, independently.

    I never believed in getting a divorce and couldn't understand why couples could not or would not do whatever it takes to make the marriage work. I discovered and realize for myself that love, relationships, responsibility and family may have had different meanings and not correctly understood by each individual involved. Different point of views or misunderstandings are not on one accord or in agreement. It takes two people to get married, but it can take only one of them to take the marriage to a place of no return. I take full responsibility for myself. Children should never have to suffer because of unresolved issues between the parents, but unfortunately it happens. Some sufferings are greater than others depending on the damage that is done. My son asked me this question a couple of months ago, when were getting ready to leave the bank and his car wouldn't start, "how can I be so calm". I am glad that he noticed that. I just calming told him to wait a little bit, then it will start and so it did. We weren't far from where I lived (although I was not going to walk home, it was very hot outside). I had him to drive me to the bank in his vehicle, instead of me driving mine. When mom stays calm and focused my children know that everything is and will be okay. Life experiences and dealing with others in various ways will teach you a lot, if you allow. I had to learn to better work on how I allowed myself to daily deal with things, because who wants turbulence. I want to continuously be in the midst of and surrounded by a peaceful calm prosperous love filled life, this I have the power to create and maintain. When our clients and employees seem chaotic I have to stay calm so that my calmness can relax them and put them at peace with ease. I can get uptight at times, but I always come in peace. Daily working on self improvement and self empowerment.

    I am open for love and marriage a second time around. My children of course do not want me to re-marry. To be frank, God knows I am human and I want lots of love and affection again, I will need to make up for lost times, it has been........NO, I have not decided to become a Nun. This is torture, am I being punished for something that I shouldn't be held responsible for? lol, or should I? I don't think so, come on now. I talk to God about everything. Will I ever get married again, I do not truly know. If this is my hearts desire, it will happen, right. Am I ready to do this all over again with someone else. OMG they would have to be a very special and unique person to win me over! GOD I hope this person has already been created, just for me and me for just them. My childrens dad stated that I am not easy to please, which is not at all true. I am not without blame, but my true intentions and actions are very good. We had 20 years of marriage together before the separation, plenty of time......... We talk about all kinds of things at work, I am usually the one who would bring up any kind of topic discussion. One of the ladys asked me do I believe in love at first sight. I stated not that I am aware of, but maybe love at 15th, 16th or 20th sight, which has been more realistic for me. I am so very grateful for the life lessons I have learned as well as looking forward to more life lessons that are still to come, which I am open to receive. Enjoy your lives together, create and cherish many special moments!

    I love and Adore my children so very much, but I never ever want to smother them or handicap and hinder them in life. I want them both to continuously grow into mature, successful, wise, loving, respectful, ambitious, determined, confident, responsible unique individuals. And Leaders or Masters in whatever they do, never ever giving up even while experiencing challenges or setbacks. My daughter Joy is an A student (she helps to tutor her fellow classmates in math and other subjects whenever they need her to, she makes herself available), she is involved in the marching band at her school playing the drums, being the only girl drummer. She attends band camp every summer. She is in the jazz band, playing the drums and base guitar. She participates in marching band and jazz band competitions. At home she has a drum set, acoustic guitar and trombone. She knows how to read music. She is on the girls basketball team at her school, being one of the starting players. She attends basketball camp every summer, while participating in tournaments all year round. Her teacher has her playing the drums for the orchestra when they perform. Her teacher has opened the door for her to audition for other music bands and events, including the Christmas production play which takes place every year at Phoenix First Church where they include real live animals in the play. This Christmas production play is very popular and well known In which thousands of people come out every year to watch. Joy looks forward to participating in this play, although it is around the same time as the school basketball season. Again just as last year, she will have me safely racing to her basketball game immediately after I get off work to pick her up and safely race her to the church so that she can make it on time to the scheduled play. When a basketball game is scheduled on the same date of the play, she is allowed to get to the play as soon as she can but before the play starts. Joy truly looks forward to participating in every event that she is involved in and she of course keeps me on track with event dates, pick up times, fees and everything else. I am wonder woman or super woman, whichever one I fit. This young lady is smart, intelligent, a leader, committed, determined, confident, a go-getter, helpful, dedicated, beautiful inside and out, responsible, picky, organized and she has so many other great qualities. Oh yes, Joy has tried to trick me, so no she is not without blame. I adore my baby girl so. I am so very grateful and blessed to have her as my baby girl. GOD HAS BLESSED ME WELL!!

    My son Jerry has moved out into his own apt. on last year before Thanksgiving into a gorgeous apt. by the Phoenix Airport. He has been the top sales person at the company in which he works. On a monthly basis he receives a huge commission pay along with his base pay. I do not mean to be a picky meddling, judgemental mom, but I do agreed with his friend, hanging out buddies nor girlfriend selection. I try to give him his space as long as needed without invading. We do bump heads, because he thinks I am being too picky, opinionated, unfair at times and over protective of him, I admit that I may be doing all 3 at times. I had to learn to back off especially when I recognized when I am being possessive or controling. I had to learn to trust him and his decisions a little better and believe that he was raised well enough to become a successful and a more responsible well behaved mature human being. I still wish that I could choose his friends and girlfriend, but I know I have to back off and learn to trust his choices a little more. This young man is smart, intelligent, ambitious, competitive, handsome, a go-getter and he has so many other great qualities. He also has very expensive taste and a very caring heart. This is my guy. I am working on establishing an even better relationship with both of my children. I do not want to be labeled as a stalker parent. Everyone needs there space and some alone time. I adore my son so. I am so very grateful and blessed to have him as my son. GOD HAS BLESSED ME WELL!!

    UNCONDITIONAL LOVE INFLUENCE....click on this link to read 1 CORINTHIANS 13

    STAY BLESSED, PEACEFUL, HOPEFUL AND LOVING, NO MATTER WHAT IS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE, AROUND YOU OR IN THIS WORLD with THE ATTITUDE OF OTHERS!!!!

    MUCH OF MY LOVE IS TO YOU, ALWAYS

    With the Kindest Regards,

    Martha Wooden

    RYM-TYM and OH! Radio Show creator/host

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