By mwp1, Nov 23 2015 6:14AM
All that I am thankful and so very grateful for:
Hello there you Beautiful People, so very glad to be chatting with you once more again. It has indeed been a while since I have chatted with you. Thanks much for sticking with RYM-TYM and The OH! Radio Show. You are greatly appreciated.
To get right to it, I have soooooo much to be Grateful and Thankful for. This year for me has been filled with many blessings and with some challenges.
At the beginning of the year I lost my brother to a heart attack, which left me feeling a little lost. I also received a promotion from my job during that same time. It was very challenging getting through that life experience. So very grateful that it has gotten much better since. A few months later in the spring, a day after Mother's Day I was in a terrible car accident which was not at all my fault. I was driving home from work then all of a sudden it seeemed out of no where comes an old SUV in my direction hitting my 2013 Dodge Avenger on the drivers side. My vehicle started spinning around in fast speed. I could not see out of the windshield while the car was spinning, because the fast spinning created much dust and smoke. While spinning I had to start thinking about what I could maybe do to stop this vehicle from spinning. While the vehicle was spinning in full speed, I did not know the location of my vehicle. I eased my feet on my brakes and the vehicle slowly stopped spinning. When it stopped my view became much clearer and I discovered that I was not far from the busy intersection and my car was facing in the opposite direction. My entire driver side starting from the front going towards the back was badly damaged, caved in with windows shattered. The entire windshield was shattered along with the airbags on the drivers side and passenger side deployed. I was in a state of shock and was feeling a bit dizzy and lost. I wasn't concerned about myself, I was more concerned about my vehicle. It was by the grace of God and his divine protection that no other vehicles crashed into my vehicle while it was spinning around. The vehicle that hit me also hit another vehicle, but the other vehicles damages were not nearly as bad as my vehicles damages were. This accident happened at a very busy intersection, I was only about 5mins. from my Group Home (my job), I hadn't gotten too far, I was still a little ways from home. As I stated above I was not at all concerned about myself, I was more upset and concerned about my vehicle and the changes in my life this accident was creating. Anyway I couldn't get out of my vehicle on the drivers side, smoke was coming from my vehicle and I knew that I had to quickly get out. A woman sherriff came over to my vehicle to assist me as well as a gentleman and then shortly after a woman police officer. The sheriff ask me was I okay and can I get out of my vehicle on my own. I stated to her that I was okay and that yes I can get out on my own. I had to crawl over to the passenger side in order to get out. I was a bit dizzy and a little shocked and upset. The medics came over to examine me to see if I was okay, they were prepared to take me to the hospital. I wasn't going to go to the hospital. I felt somewhat okay, still a bit dizzy, with a little blood on my left hand because of the little pieces of glass from the driver side window when it shattered. I also had little pieces of glass inside of my shirt in the back. My hand was in a little bit of pain as was my knee and the left side of my chest. But at that time it wasn't enough pain for me to be concerned about or focused in on. I was not at all aware of how this level of accident happened. I didn't know what caused it, I didn't know anything. It seemed as if this SUV fell out of the sky or appeared out of now where and just crashed into my vehicle. I couldn't even tell the police anything, because I didn't know who, what or why. I knew nothing which was so very weird to me. Later after being out there for a bit, the guy that hit me came over to me and admitted that it was his fought and he apologized for hitting me, stating that he drove in my direction to avoid a much worst collision that would have involved many more vehicles. He claimed that another vehicle ran the red light and kept going. I was like do you see my vehicle and that I could have been very badly injured. I knew that my car was totalled, the damages were that bad. It seemed as if everyone that talked to me couldn't believe that I was able to crawl out of my vehicle and was able to stand and walk on my own. They tried to make me sit down on the curb and wanted me to go to the hospital, but I did neither one. Of course later I felt much much more pain in my left hand, my left knee was bruised and in much pain when I moved it or touched it. Under my left arm I felt much pain and there appeared a big red bruise. The left side of my chest was so very painful for about a month. I didn't go to work the next day because I had requested that day off ahead of time, because I was going to Tucson to pick up my son from the University, he was coming home for the summer. But the next day after I went to work and thereafter, yes of course life does continue on for the living. I picked my son up as planned the next day in the car I rented for my sister when she first moved out here in AZ, which was a week before the accident. My daughter Joy droved out to Tucson with me. To fast forward, I had a car rental for over a month and a month after that I purchased another vehicle. During that experience and challenge I thought later after not any sooner than that that I should be thankful and grateful to God inspite of this accident that had happened So I started being very thankful that I was still very much alive and mentally and physically well. But before allowing myself to be thankful, I questioned everything about my life, my purpose, my religious beliefs, who I am and everything else. I was very angry that this accident had happened to someone like me. I examined myself and everyone else and everything that I had around me that was using up valuable space with no productivity in my life at that time. I was very upset. I had just paid my car note two months ahead. I still question why me, why that, to this very day, while continuously moving full speed ahead in life. And I still don't know nor do I have the many answers to the many questions that I have. All I know is that I am a survivor and that challenges make me a little more stronger and a little more motivated in life. No, I don't welcome them with open arms. I don't care how overwhelming some challenges might seem, I am an extremely powerful person and an overcomer. I am a winner, I win everytime. I have since then in the month of september 2015 started a new job with another company, I received another promotion. I am still in the Home and Health Care Profession. I am a Care Coordinator for a privately owned home care company. I went to the interview during the time after the car accident, whic was maybe a month after. The company offered me the job almost 2 months after the interview. The interview took place at their Mesa Office, but they hired me to work in their Phoenix office which is less than 10mins. away from where I currently live. I went on several job interviews around that time with different companies, hoping to get hired by a company who pays good, with less responsibility. Because after the accident I blamed it on my job, everybody, everything and anything, because of the responsibility level. I stated to myself that if I hadn't been at work pass the time of getting off this wouldn't have happened, I wouldn't have been at the intersection at that time. Yes, as I stated above, I questioned everything and everybody, including myself. Anyway I put in my two weeks notice as Group Home manager with my previous employer and started work two weeks later with my new employer. I have my own big office, a complany cell phone, a company lap top, I get a monthly gas allowance for when we have to do new client intakes and supervisory home visits. I am a supervisor of over 200 care givers, we have over 200 clients whom we provide home care services for. 85% of our clients use their family members to help provide care for them and the other 15% use our agency care givers. All of the care givers are employed by our company, the agency and the family care givers. It is currently 3 of us who work in the Phoenix Office, it will soon be 5 working out of that office. This privately owned Home Care Company is a growing company with offices in other parts of AZ. The owner is currently in Texas starting a Home Care company there. Our Head Quarters and Human Resource is in Scottsdale, AZ which is the office where the owner of the company and her husband works out of. I have met the owner, she is a tough middle age petite in size business woman that doesn't play. She expects a lot out of us and she takes in no excuses. We have conference calls and webinars on a weekly basis in which we have to participate in no matter if we are in the office at the time or out in the field. There are excellent opportunities with this company. Each office area in AZ basically runs the company covering their areas. We practically do everything in our Phoenix Office that covers Glendale, Scottsdale, Phoenix and many other surrounding city areas where our clients live. I was overwhelmed at first when I started this job, because there was so much to learn, which there still is. And plus I needed a break, to take a long enough vacation in between leaving my old job that had big responsibilities to starting this new job which seemed to be 20times the amount of responsibilities than my previous job, which I already knew what I was getting myself into, but I truly didn't know to what extent. I was very overwhelmed at first almost regretting taking on a job like this kind, but after two weeks of working their it was almost like a heavy load was lifted off my shoulders. The seemingly heavy overwhelming load was greatly lifted, now you can't tell me nothing, just kidding. I can truly say that I am good at what I do, very good. A lot of work to do and grounds to cover, but I am getting it covered. I now have to get deeply involved in knowing the health care laws, some of the politics part of it and anything else that has to do with this type of business. I had to take a test so that I can train Care givers to obtain their certifications and I of course passed. We do the hiring, the firing, the certification training, the client intakes and so much more. Of course I would love to make more money, but I am grateful for what I do make. Although I would rather make more with way less responsibilities, I have already learned a lot while working for the pass two months for this company. Still a lot more to learn and to fully understand about home care, health care and whatever else. I am open for learning more and more and more. I am so grateful and thankful to God for being determined, driven and up for challenging myself and my abilities. Don't know where this is taking me, although I try to fight it and want to give up at times, some how it is not in me to give up and run away from challenges. I was looking for a job with less responsibilities, but some how ended up with it seems to be 20times more responsibility than my previous employer, although I mastered being a Group Home Manager, it became too easy for me. My big bosses trusted me because my Group Home was the only one out of the other four Group Homes that my supervisor was over, that ran smoothly. My paperwork was well organized and in order and so were my clients and staff. My Group Home was recognized as being well cleaned and in great order. My Bosses boss thanked me for helping to make her job easier, because they werent getting problem calls at any time, but especially not over the weeking from me in regards to my staff or my clients misbehaving. My group home had a bad client that lived in it but after a while he became a much better person. My clients as well as my staff knew that I took my job seriously.
My group home clients had health and mental disabilities. I helped them to change their eating habits, (because I had to grocery shop for my grop home every week). I helped themto manage their money much better (I was responsible for handling, keeping up with how their funds were being spend, with creating spending ledgers). I had my Group Home clients to join a health club, along with myself and some of my staff. We joined planet fitness, which was an affordable membership for everyone to join. We worked out at planet fitness with the clients at least 3 to 4 times a week. I was able to talk my clients DDD Support Coordinator into purchasing season Diamond back tickets and the Arizona Rattlers Arena football season tickets for one of my clients in which a staff can go with him for free. So i went to a few Diamondback and Rattlers games while working. Some of my staff attended the games also. What a job. Now this same client since I have been gone has the Phoenix Suns season tickets. Man I am going to miss out on going to the Phoenix Suns basketball games. I have been visiting with them whenever I have the time since I have left and they are always happy to see me. What I started and put in place for them still continues, they were working out at Planet Fitness the last time I visit with them, I went to Planet fitness to see them. One of the clients gets his hair cut everytwo weeks and a pedicure and a manicure according to what I had set in place for him when I was the Group Home Manager. I expected my staff to show concern and care for the clients as I did. I set the example and they all had to follow with no exceptions. I took better care of them than I do for myself. I have experienced the many of times in my life when my hair, nails, clothes, shoes, purse and jewelry all had to be top notch. I have pampered myself many of times. I still can whenever I chose to. I am more focused on others who never had a chance to live a more organized life, experiencing the better things in life. I also made sure that my Group Home clients got a chance to experience eating out at different types of restaurants in which they never got a chance to experience before. They enjoyed and still enjoy the many different experiences and opportunities that have been made available and open to them. My supervisor and other bosses didn't want to see me go, but they did understand why I had to leave. I recommended one of my best staff to become the new Group Home Manager and immediately after I left he went into training for the new group home manager and he has been a good fit since. I am so very grateful and thankful to God that I left a great big possitive impact behind on my clients especially and on my staff and bosses. I received so many great complements in regards to how my presence and attitude. Just being myself, I can't be anything else but who I uniquely am, being me comes more natural for me. I can only be me, being anyone else is being a fake. I love being unique and different.
Now back to chatting about my new job. There are so many disabled people in this world, mentally and physically. Since I started working in this professional last year in May of 2014, I have discovered that there are a lot of physically and mentally disabled people in this world. Since I have been working for this new company I have had more interaction and open communication with the disabled. All of these people are truly sick and most of them will never get well which is very unfortunate. Most of them do not believe that they will ever be well again, so therefore they have accepted. And with some of themtheir health is beyond repair. Some of them can become very angry and some of them can remain in okay spirits. I sit in their homes when I do my client intakes or home visits and I patiently listen to what they have to say. At times we talk and do lots of laughing, I try to lighten the mood. I try to connect with everyone no matter what race or level of life they are at. Most of the time I naturally make the connection. I get invites to return for a visit at anytime. It is great when people trust you and feel at eased with you on your first meeting. I aim to please. People are already hurting and going through, no one wants to feel rejected, alone or reminded of the reality of the real deal.
I was a bit angry with my parents for not encouraging their children to take better care of themselves as they became adults, (although when we are adults we sometimes won't easily listen to others), especially when you are spiritual and you see and make known what is wrong in everyone else but ignore what you see in your own children even when you may believe that something might be very wrong. I was angry with my brother Matthew (whom passed away with a heart attack in February of 2015 and with my big Sister Sherry (whom passed away with breast cancer a day before Thanksgiving, November of 2010) for not caring enough about their health. Our health is extremely important, we can become very successful in life with everything else, but if our health fails we will not be able to greatly enjoy our great success. When I get sick with a minor cold I am a big baby, even though when I have no other choice I have to keep on moving, so I know that I will be at my worst if I had to suffer with having to live with a permanent illness that required me to be physically limited having to take multiple types of medications just to help make the transition a bit more comfortable or much more tolerable. When our Care Givers try to call off , I remind them that the excuses that they are trying to make are nothing and are very lame compared to the continuous, much needed and serious needs in which our clients truly have inwhich their assignments as their care givers are to provide. These people truly need help and most of them can not do without it. I am more grateful for the opportunity to serve the ones who are in much serious need. Unfortunately there will always be mentally and physically disabled people in this world. Unfortunately there will always be poor people in this world. Your job is to take your place in this world in doing your part in helping to make a difference in the lives of the ones who sincerely need it. I asked God why do you have me around these people? Am I doing what I am suppose to while being around them? I can be very hard on myself in wondering what is my true place and have I done enough with what I have done? My children come first before anyone outside of my immediate family. My children are very important to me, I love them so very much. I am so very grateful to God for blessing me with them both. I just hope that I have been a great example before them and that I am being an amazing mother and role model. I hope that both my children are so very glad to have me as there mother. I hope that they are satisfied with the services in which I have provided for them both and in which I will continue to provide for them until the day I die, without suffocating, babying or chasing them away. I tell my kids all the time to be grateful and very thankful for what you have been blessed with, because they have been blessed with plenty. I get fierce with my daughter Joy sometimes because although she has more than one pair of shoes and clothing she will wear her favorite pair of shoes, jacket or clothes even after it gets very ragedy. She tells me I like these or these ragedy shoes are extremely comfortable. I tell her that she represents me and that although I don't want her to be caught up on what people say, that most people will choose to believe that she doesn't have anything else. Of course she doesn't care just as long as they don't let her know what they may be thinking. No it is not about what people say or think about you, but I just want my kids to represent themselves and myself well. In character traits inside and out and a little bit in how you carry yourself on the outside, your outward appearance still counts.
I greatly missed chatting with YOU ALL, I was only planning to type a little something to share with you. Now some parts of my life are no longer private. Greatly enjoy the Thanksgiving quotes below.
Thanksgiving is a wonderful time to be grateful and thankful to those who are important in our life. It is the time when you send wonderful Thanksgiving Wishes 2015 to special people, family and friends to thank them for being there when you needed them.
Thanksgiving Quotes: Meaningful Sayings To Share Around The Dinner Table
Thanksgiving is a day to count one’s blessings, reconnect with friends and relatives, and to gorge on traditional turkey day fare while trying to avoid popping any seams. Just like the first Thanksgiving feast, when New Englanders and Native Americans came together to share a meal, American families across the country will join around the dinner table to celebrate what was historically the end of the harvest season.
A few meaningful words can go a long way when entertaining guests on turkey day. Here are Thanksgiving quotes, from presidents, musicians, TV hosts, spiritual leaders and more.
Inspirational Thanksgiving Quotes
“There is one day that is ours. Thanksgiving Day is the one day that is purely American.” -- O. Henry
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” -- Willie Nelson
“Appreciation can change a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” -- Margaret Cousins
“Gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgiving, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.” -- William Arthur Ward
“If you are really thankful, what do you do? You share.” -- W. Clement Stone
“Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.” -- Oprah Winfrey
Presidential Thanksgiving Quotes
“Almighty God, who hast given us this good land for our heritage; We humbly beseech Thee that we may always prove ourselves a people mindful of Thy favor and glad to do Thy will.” -- President Franklin D. Roosevelt
“All across America, we gather this week with the people we love to give thanks to God for the blessings in our lives.” -- President George W. Bush
“Sharing in God’s blessings is at the heart of Thanksgiving and at the core of the American spirit.” -- President Bill Clinton
"We are profoundly grateful for the blessings bestowed upon us: the preservation of our freedom, so dearly bought and so highly prized; our opportunities for human welfare and happiness, so limitless in their scope; our material prosperity, so far surpassing that of earlier years; and our private spiritual blessings, so deeply cherished by all. For these we offer fervent thanks to God." -- President Harry Truman
“We have been the recipients of the choicest bounties of Heaven; we have been preserved these many years in peace and prosperity; we have grown in numbers, wealth and power as no other nation has ever grown.” -- Abraham Lincoln
Spiritual Thanksgiving Quotes
“The roots of all goodness lie in the soil of appreciation for goodness.” -- Dalai Lama
"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit." -- Albert Schweitzer
“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.” -- W.T. Purkiser
"Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has plenty; not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some." -- Charles Dickens
“I give thanks to my Creator for this wonderful life where each of us has the opportunity to learn lessons we could not fully comprehend by any other means.” -- Joseph B. Wirthlin
"God is glorified, not by our groans, but by our thanksgivings.” -- Edwin Percy Whipple
Funny Thanksgiving Quotes
“Thanksgiving dinners take 18 hours to prepare. They are consumed in 12 minutes. Halftimes take 12 minutes. This is not coincidence.” -- Erma Bombeck
“An optimist is a person who starts a new diet on Thanksgiving Day.” -- Irv Kupcinet
"When asked if my cup is half-full or half-empty my only response is that I am thankful I have a cup." -- Sam Lefkowitz
“Thanksgiving, man. Not a good day to be my pants.” -- Kevin James
Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. - Marcel Proust
If you made a list of all the things you could be thankful for, the list would undoubtedly be longer than your misfortunes. - Catherine Pulsifer
The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving. - H.U. Westermayer
Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. - Melody Beattie
Funny Thanksgiving Day 2015 Quotes
Gratitude is the inward feeling of kindness received. Thankfulness is the natural impulse to express that feeling. Thanksgiving is the following of that impulse. - Henry Van Dyke
“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.” - Marcus Tullius Cicero
“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” - Willie Nelson
"We are blessed in so many ways; many things we take for granted but we should stop and be thankful each and every day."
If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice. - Meister Eckhart
Pride slays thanksgiving, but a humble mind is the soil out of which thanks naturally grow. A proud man is seldom a grateful man, for he never thinks he gets as much as he deserves. - Henry Ward Beecher
Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving. ? W.T. Purkiser
If a fellow isn't thankful for what he's got, he isn't likely to be thankful for what he's going to get. - Frank A. Clark
I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual. - Henry David Thoreau
“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Appreciation can change a day, even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.” - Margaret Cousins
Thanksgiving Day Quotes 2015
"Practicing gratitude is a very powerful tool to shift your attention on the things you don't have to the things you do have and this alone will make you feel better." - Noelia Aanulds
Thanksgiving Day is a jewel, to set in the hearts of honest men; but be careful that you do not take the day, and leave out the gratitude. - E.P. Powell
Our rural ancestors, with little blest, Patient of labour when the end was rest, Indulged the day that housed their annual grain, With feasts, and off'rings, and a thankful strain. - Alexander Pope
None is more impoverished than the one who has no gratitude. Gratitude is a currency that we can mint for ourselves, and spend without fear of bankruptcy. - Fred De Witt Van Amburgh
Over and over I marvel at the blessings of my life: Each year has grown better than the last. - Lawrence Welk
“Praise God even when you don’t understand what He is doing.” - Henry Jacobsen
“If you are really thankful, what do you do? You share.” - W. Clement Stone
Thanksgiving Day 2015 Quotes
It is when we stop thinking about what we don't have or what we lack, and become grateful for who we are, that we can gain access to true unlimited inspiration. - Frank Arrigazzi
He who thanks but with the lips Thanks but in part; The full, the true Thanksgiving Comes from the heart. - J.A. Shedd
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. - John Fitzgerald Kennedy
Thanksgiving is a time when the world gets to see just how blessed and how workable the Christian system is. The emphasis is not on giving or buying, but on being thankful and expressing that appreciation to God and to one another. - John Clayton
“Let gratitude be the pillow upon which you kneel to say your nightly prayer. And let faith be the bridge you build to overcome evil and welcome good.” - Maya Angelou
“All across America, we gather this week with the people we love to give thanks to God for the blessings in our lives.” - President George W. Bush
God is glorified, not by our groans, but by our thanksgivings. - Edwin Percy Whipple
Remember God's bounty in the year. String the pearls of His favor. Hide the dark parts, except so far as they are breaking out in light! Give this one day to thanks, to joy, to gratitude! - Henry Ward Beecher
Drink and be thankful to the host! What seems insignificant when you have it, is important when you need it. - Franz Grillparzer
Thanksgiving Day is a good day to recommit our energies to giving thanks and just giving. - Amy Grant
I give thanks to my Creator for this wonderful life where each of us has the opportunity to learn lessons we could not fully comprehend by any other means. - Joseph B. Wirthlin
“I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought, and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” - G.K. Chesterton
“Sharing in God’s blessings is at the heart of Thanksgiving and at the core of the American spirit.” - President Bill Clinton
Thanksgiving Day 2015 quotes and sayings
Thank you consists of just eight letters that form two of the most meaningful words in the English vocabulary. - Doborah Norville
Thanksgiving Day comes, by statute, once a year; to the honest man it comes as frequently as the heart of gratitude will allow. - Edward Sandford Martin
Let us remember that, as much has been given us, much will be expected from us, and that true homage comes from the heart as well as from the lips, and shows itself in deeds. - Theodore Roosevelt
God gave us our relatives; thank God we can choose our friends. - Ethel Watts Mumford
Thanksgiving is a blessing in disguise. With your friends and family near, make this day as special as you can and thank them with your heart. Happy Thanksgiving!
May the good things of life
be yours in abundance
not only at Thanksgiving
but throughout the coming year
Have a Happy Thanksgiving!
Hoping your Thanksgiving is filled with blessings and joy.
Wishing you the happiness of good friends,
the joy of a happy family, and the wonder of the holiday season.
Have a magical thanksgiving!
I am thankful for the joy and happiness in my life.
Wishing you peace,
love and happiness on this Thanksgiving Day!
Being thankful for all that
we have paved the way for receiving even more...
this is the very essence of Thanksgiving!
Greetings! Hoping that this Thanksgiving will be your best one yet!
May you enjoy a bountiful Thanksgiving,
Sending you double blessings as you celebrate the Festival of Lights and Thanksgiving.
Funny Thanksgiving Day 2015 Wishes
With Thankfulness for all we have, we wish you a Happy Thanksgiving!
“Sing songs of merriment, sing songs of joy, sing in high spirits and good faith too...
but don't you forget to sing a song of thankfulness,
for Thanksgiving is all about being grateful for one's blessings,
so one can be blessed once more, anew!
“Some friendships become more beautiful over time.
Thank you for the encouragement you add to my life!
Iwish you a heartfelt Thanksgiving.
"A special greeting of
Thanksgiving time to express
to you our sincere appreciation
for your support and loyalty.
We are deeply thankful and
extend to you our best wishes
for a happy and healthy
The gift of wonderful friends is the nicest blessing of all.
Kept in the heart and prayers all year,
and, especially during this special season.
Deeply thankful and extending to you the best of wishes.
May you enjoy a bountiful Thanksgiving!
Giving thanks humbles us on this special day.
Enjoy a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday!
Roast Turkey, scrumptious pies, freshly brewed cider, vegetables and fruits galore and golden baked goodies align the table...
as the toast to Thanksgiving is raised..let's take a moment to reflect and
be thankful to the Lord for blessing us with so much and for making us able.
Nobility is served on the plate of Thanksgiving since noble is that man who expresses his gratitude.
May you have a great Thanksgiving Day!
One of the joys of
Thanksgiving is wishing you
a happy Holiday Season
and a healthy and prosperous
“November is the time to be thankful,
a time to remember and to embrace those who enrich our lives.
I'm thankful for a lot of things,
but I'm most thankful for YOU!
Thanksgiving Day Wishes 2015
"May you enjoy a bountiful Thanksgiving.
Wishing you a year filled with warm and cherished moments.
Enjoy your Thanksgiving Day with friends and
family and give thanks for all that you have.
Thanksgiving is a time to gather around loved ones .
to be grateful for all that we have been so abundantly blessed with
and also to spare a thought for those not so lucky.
It is a season of bountifulness and a reason to share the same ....
true Thanksgiving is in actually doing that - Giving !!!
Here comes the time to be merry,
don’t hold your heart and be sorry.
Better it is to say, ‘Thank You’,
than be always so blue. Happy Thanksgiving Day!
At this time of
our thoughts turn gratefully
To live a life of gratitude is to catch a glimpse of heaven.
Many Blessings to you on this Thanksgiving Day.
“At this time of Thanksgiving celebration our thoughts turn gratefully to you with warm appreciation.
Our best wishes for a Happy Thanksgiving.
Thanksgiving Day 2015 Wishes
Wishing you a Happy and Bountiful Thanksgiving Day!
This is a day to remember everything in our lives small and large,
and give thanks.
On Thanksgiving and always,
may you and your loved ones savor all that is rich...
may the festivities come alive with the cornucopia of hope,
faith and goodwill.
Thanksgiving is the day when you turn to another family member
and say, How long has Mom been drinking like this?
My Mom, after six Bloody Marys looks
at the turkey and goes, Here, kitty, kitty.
You are a very special blessing to us.
May love, joy and happiness be yours in abundance this holiday season.
Thanksgiving for people is… The morning sun and the setting moon,
The cheerful bird and the dancing mood,
The silent waters and the playful dunes But more than
that cherish each other! Happy thanksgiving!
Enjoy a special Thanksgiving with loved ones and friends.
This is the day set aside to be grateful and humble to all that we have.
As the festive dinner is laid, and with rich aromas the air is replete,
it is only by offering heartfelt thanks to the Lord-
that the family Thanksgiving celebrations are complete.
Thanksgiving Day comes, by statute,
once a year; to the honest man
it comes as frequently as the heart of gratitude will allow.
Give thanks with a grateful heart. Happy wishes for the people in your life!
There have been times when you forgot to thank others for being there for you.
Take this day to tell them how special they are
and how great your life has become because of them.
Have a memorable thanksgiving.
Practice the 20 days of thankfulness,
by choosing one thing a day to be thankful for.
Be thankful for your health. Happy Thanksgiving to all!
A Thankful person is always more likely to be happy not just on Thanksgiving
but right through life...
so make a start this Thanksgiving!!!
“Thanksgiving comes to us out of the prehistoric dimness,
universal to all ages and all faiths.
At whatever straws we must grasp,
there is always a time for gratitude and new beginnings.
Thanksgiving Day 2015 Wishes sayings
We are thankful for the blessings this year
And count you among what is dear.
Sending love and warm wishes your way
For a beautiful and happy Thanksgiving Day!
The beauty of the lord is that,
he gives even without being asked,
helps without being seen, and stays even when we forget to say thank you.
I take this day to thank you God for everything.
May you also have plenty of reasons to thank God.
As you sit down to enjoy your Thanksgiving day feast,
remember all the people that are not as lucky,
and be thankful for everything in our lives today.
The key to contentment lies solely in being thankful for
what one has been blessed with. Only then will one be blessed with more. Happy Thanksgiving!
May you have a wonderful time this Thanksgiving,
with friends and family.
Enjoy Happy Thanksgiving Day.
I count you among my many blessings.
Thinking of you and sending warm wishes
for a bright and beautiful holiday!
May you be bestowed upon with the best of everything
and have the strength to surpass any obstacle.
The lord will lead your way.
Have a blessed thanksgiving.
Enjoy a bountiful harvest on this Thanksgiving Day
as we remember the pilgrims who celebrated on this special day.
It's time to celebrate our friendship and cherish the memories
that we've shared with happiness and cheer.
Wishing you the joys of Thanksgiving!
Bible Verses about
1 Thessalonians 5:18
Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.
I will give to the Lord the thanks due to his righteousness, and I will sing praise to the name of the Lord, the Most High.
Oh give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever!
Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,
A Psalm for giving thanks. Make a joyful noise to the Lord, all the earth! Serve the Lord with gladness! Come into his presence with singing! Know that the Lord, he is God! It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture. Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name! For the Lord is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. ...
You will say in that day: “I will give thanks to you, O Lord, for though you were angry with me, your anger turned away, that you might comfort me. “Behold, God is my salvation; I will trust, and will not be afraid; for the Lord God is my strength and my song, and he has become my salvation.” With joy you will draw water from the wells of salvation. And you will say in that day: “Give thanks to the Lord, call upon his name, make known his deeds among the peoples, proclaim that his name is exalted. “Sing praises to the Lord, for he has done gloriously; let this be made known in all the earth. ...
Offer to God a sacrifice of thanksgiving, and perform your vows to the Most High,
Through him then let us continually offer up a sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit of lips that acknowledge his name.
They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.
What shall I render to the Lord for all his benefits to me?
And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good, for his steadfast love endures forever. Give thanks to the God of gods, for his steadfast love endures forever. Give thanks to the Lord of lords, for his steadfast love endures forever; to him who alone does great wonders, for his steadfast love endures forever; to him who by understanding made the heavens, for his steadfast love endures forever; ...
2 Corinthians 2:14
But thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of him everywhere.
Oh, how abundant is your goodness, which you have stored up for those who fear you and worked for those who take refuge in you, in the sight of the children of mankind!
“And this is the law of the sacrifice of peace offerings that one may offer to the Lord. If he offers it for a thanksgiving, then he shall offer with the thanksgiving sacrifice unleavened loaves mixed with oil, unleavened wafers smeared with oil, and loaves of fine flour well mixed with oil. With the sacrifice of his peace offerings for thanksgiving he shall bring his offering with loaves of leavened bread. And from it he shall offer one loaf from each offering, as a gift to the Lord. It shall belong to the priest who throws the blood of the peace offerings. And the flesh of the sacrifice of his peace offerings for thanksgiving shall be eaten on the day of his offering. He shall not leave any of it until the morning.
Oh come, let us sing to the Lord; let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation! Let us come into his presence with thanksgiving; let us make a joyful noise to him with songs of praise! For the Lord is a great God, and a great King above all gods. In his hand are the depths of the earth; the heights of the mountains are his also. The sea is his, for he made it, and his hands formed the dry land. ...
Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits,
The living, the living, he thanks you, as I do this day; the father makes known to the children your faithfulness. The Lord will save me, and we will play my music on stringed instruments all the days of our lives, at the house of the Lord.
A Psalm. A Song for the Sabbath. It is good to give thanks to the Lord, to sing praises to your name, O Most High; to declare your steadfast love in the morning, and your faithfulness by night, to the music of the lute and the harp, to the melody of the lyre. For you, O Lord, have made me glad by your work; at the works of your hands I sing for joy. How great are your works, O Lord! Your thoughts are very deep! ...
Give, and it will be given to you. Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For with the measure you use it will be measured back to you.”
“Take care lest you forget the Lord your God by not keeping his commandments and his rules and his statutes, which I command you today, lest, when you have eaten and are full and have built good houses and live in them, and when your herds and flocks multiply and your silver and gold is multiplied and all that you have is multiplied, then your heart be lifted up, and you forget the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery,
1 Chronicles 16:8
Oh give thanks to the Lord; call upon his name; make known his deeds among the peoples!
I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always in every prayer of mine for you all making my prayer with joy, because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now. And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. It is right for me to feel this way about you all, because I hold you in my heart, for you are all partakers with me of grace, both in my imprisonment and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel. ...
Of David. Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless his holy name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle's.
Therefore we must pay much closer attention to what we have heard, lest we drift away from it. For since the message declared by angels proved to be reliable, and every transgression or disobedience received a just retribution, how shall we escape if we neglect such a great salvation? It was declared at first by the Lord, and it was attested to us by those who heard, while God also bore witness by signs and wonders and various miracles and by gifts of the Holy Spirit distributed according to his will. Now it was not to angels that God subjected the world to come, of which we are speaking. ...
I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship.
Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the wicked, nor stands in the way of sinners, nor sits in the seat of scoffers; but his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he meditates day and night. He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers. The wicked are not so, but are like chaff that the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous; ...
And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the shepherds and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, ...
Though the fig tree should not blossom, nor fruit be on the vines, the produce of the olive fail and the fields yield no food, the flock be cut off from the fold and there be no herd in the stalls,
Is anyone among you suffering? Let him pray. Is anyone cheerful? Let him sing praise.
1 Timothy 4:1-3
Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by devoting themselves to deceitful spirits and teachings of demons, through the insincerity of liars whose consciences are seared, who forbid marriage and require abstinence from foods that God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth.
2 Corinthians 9:10-15
He who supplies seed to the sower and bread for food will supply and multiply your seed for sowing and increase the harvest of your righteousness. You will be enriched in every way to be generous in every way, which through us will produce thanksgiving to God. For the ministry of this service is not only supplying the needs of the saints but is also overflowing in many thanksgivings to God. By their approval of this service, they will glorify God because of your submission flowing from your confession of the gospel of Christ, and the generosity of your contribution for them and for all others, while they long for you and pray for you, because of the surpassing grace of God upon you. ...
Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving.
For this reason, because I have heard of your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love toward all the saints, I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you a spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of him, having the eyes of your hearts enlightened, that you may know what is the hope to which he has called you, what are the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints,
A Psalm. A Song for the Sabbath. It is good to give thanks to the Lord, to sing praises to your name, O Most High; to declare your steadfast love in the morning, and your faithfulness by night, to the music of the lute and the harp, to the melody of the lyre. For you, O Lord, have made me glad by your work; at the works of your hands I sing for joy. How great are your works, O Lord! Your thoughts are very deep!
To the choirmaster: according to Do Not Destroy. A Psalm of Asaph. A Song. We give thanks to you, O God; we give thanks, for your name is near. We recount your wondrous deeds.
Sing to the Lord with thanksgiving; make melody to our God on the lyre! He covers the heavens with clouds; he prepares rain for the earth; he makes grass grow on the hills. He gives to the beasts their food, and to the young ravens that cry.
He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”
I will praise the name of God with a song; I will magnify him with thanksgiving. This will please the Lord more than an ox or a bull with horns and hoofs.
1 Chronicles 16:12
Remember the wondrous works that he has done, his miracles and the judgments he uttered,
1 Thessalonians 5:17
Pray without ceasing,
2 Corinthians 4:15
For it is all for your sake, so that as grace extends to more and more people it may increase thanksgiving, to the glory of God.
1 Peter 2:5
You yourselves like living stones are being built up as a spiritual house, to be a holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.
Therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe,
2 Corinthians 9:15
Thanks be to God for his inexpressible gift!
A Psalm. A Song for the Sabbath. It is good to give thanks to the Lord, to sing praises to your name, O Most High; to declare your steadfast love in the morning, and your faithfulness by night,
1 Chronicles 29:3
Moreover, in addition to all that I have provided for the holy house, I have a treasure of my own of gold and silver, and because of my devotion to the house of my God I give it to the house of my God:
1 Chronicles 23:30
And they were to stand every morning, thanking and praising the Lord, and likewise at evening,
1 Timothy 2:1
First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people,
The native people showed us unusual kindness, for they kindled a fire and welcomed us all, because it had begun to rain and was cold.
For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me,
To the choirmaster. A Psalm of David. O Lord, you have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O Lord, you know it altogether. You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me. ...
Wondrously show your steadfast love, O Savior of those who seek refuge from their adversaries at your right hand.
Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.
2 Corinthians 3:18
And we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
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By mwp1, Sep 11 2015 4:20PM
September 11th Fast Facts
19 men hijacked four fuel-loaded U.S. commercial airlines bound for west coast destinations. This terrorist attack on the United States was orchestrated by al Qaeda leader Osama bin Laden. A total of 2,977 people were killed in New York City, Washington, DC, and outside of Shanksville, Pennsylvania, in the worst terrorist attack in U.S. history.
At the World Trade Center site in Lower Manhattan, 2,753 people were killed when hijacked American Airlines Flight 11 and United Airlines Flight 175 were intentionally crashed in the north and south towers.
Of those who perished during the initial attacks and the subsequent collapses of the towers, 343 were New York City firefighters, another 23 were New York City police officers and 37 others were officers at the Port Authority.
The victims ranged in age from two to 85 years. Approximately 75-80 percent of the victims were men.
At the Pentagon in Washington, 184 people were killed when hijacked American Airlines Flight 77 crashed into the building.
Near Shanksville, Pennsylvania, 40 passengers and crew members aboard United Airlines Flight 93 died when the plane crashed into a field. It is believed that the hijackers crashed the plane in that location, rather than their unknown target, after the passengers and crew attempted to retake control of the flight deck.
As of September 2015, 1,640 of 2,753 WTC victims' remains have been positively identified.
September 11, 2001
- 8:46am ET - American Airlines Flight 11 (traveling from Boston to Los Angeles) strikes the north tower of the World Trade Center in New York City.
- 9:03am ET - United Airlines Flight 175 (traveling from Boston to Los Angeles) strikes the south tower of the World Trade Center in New York City.
- 9:37am ET - American Airlines Flight 77 (traveling from Dulles, Virginia to Los Angeles) strikes the Pentagon Building in Washington.
- 9:59am ET - South tower of WTC collapses in approximately 10 seconds.
- 10:03am ET - United Airlines Flight 93 (traveling from Newark, New Jersey to San Francisco) crashes in a field near Shanksville, Pennsylvania.
- 10:28am ET - North tower of WTC collapses. The time between the first attack and the collapse of both World Trade Center towers is 102 minutes.
December 13, 2001 - The U.S. government releases a tape in which Osama bin Laden takes responsibility for the attacks.
December 18, 2001 - Congress approves a measure to allow the president to designate September 11th as "Patriot Day" on each anniversary of the attacks.
January 23, 2004 - The New York City Medical Examiner's Office has issued 2,749 death certificates, the first time since the attacks that the number of death certificates has matched the number of victims.
June 15, 2004 - The Victims Compensation Fund finishes its work processing death and injury claims from families and relatives of Sept. 11 victims. Families of those killed had until December 22, 2003, to apply for compensation. Families who agreed to get compensation from the federal fund agreed not to sue the airlines.
February 22, 2005 - Saying it has exhausted all DNA technology, the New York City Medical Examiner's Office halts the process of identifying human remains from the September 11, 2001, terrorist attacks at the World Trade Center site. Of the 2,749 people known to have been killed at the World Trade Center site, only 1,585, or 58 percent, are identified by recovered physical remains.
April 2, 2007 - The remains of two more victims of 9/11 at the World Trade Center are positively identified. Of the 2,749 known deaths in the attacks in New York, 1,146 victims have yet to be linked to remains.
May 24, 2007 - The Chief Medical Examiner of New York City, Dr. Charles S. Hirsch, rules that the death of Felicia Dunn-Jones in 2002, from dust exposure, is directly linked to the 9/11 attack and therefore a homicide. This raises the 9/11 death toll to 2,750.
July 19, 2007 - The New York Medical Examiner's Office announces that the remains of three more people are positively identified. 1,133 victims, 41 percent of the total, remain unidentified.
April 7, 2008 - The New York City Medical Examiner's Office announces that the remains of four more victims have been identified. As of this date, 1,621 victims have been identified, leaving 1,129 unidentified.
January 2009 - The medical examiner's office rules that Leon Heyward, who died the previous year of lymphoma and lung disease, is a homicide victim because he was caught in the toxic dust cloud just after the towers collapsed. This brings the total number of 9/11 victim death toll to 2,752.
June 17, 2011 - The New York medical examiner rules that Jerry Borg's death on December 15, 2010 is a result of inhaling toxic substances from the dust cloud generated by the collapsing twin towers. This brings the number of victims at the World Trade Center site to 2,753 and the overall 9/11 victim death toll to 2,977.
August 23, 2011 - The New York City Medical Examiner's Office announces that remains from the World Trade Center have been positively identified as 40-year-old Ernest James. As of this date, 1,632 victims have been identified, leaving as many as 1,121 unidentified.
February 10, 2012 - The New York City Chief Medical Examiner's office announces that remains from the World Trade Center have been positively identified as 42-year-old Karol Ann Keasler. As of this date, 1,633 victims have been identified, leaving as many as 1,120 unidentified.
July 5, 2013 - Remains are identified as firefighter Lt. Jeffrey P. Waltz, who was last seen in the north tower of the WTC.
May 10, 2014 - The unidentified remains of those killed in the attacks are returned to the World Trade Center site where they will be kept in a repository under the jurisdiction of the Office of Chief Medical Examiner of the City of New York. According to the Medical Examiner's Office, of the 2,753 people reported missing at the World Trade Center, 1,115 victims, or 41 percent of the total, have not been identified.
March 19, 2015 - The New York City Medical Examiner's Office positively identifies the remains of 26-year-old Matthew Yarnell. 1,113 victims remain unidentified.
September 11th Victim Compensation Fund:
Operated from December 2001 to 2003.
The Victim Compensation Fund received 7,408 applications for both death claims and personal injury claims.
The fund made awards in 5,560 of those cases.
January 2, 2011 - President Barack Obama signs James Zadroga 9/11 Health and Compensation Act of 2010, reopening and expanding the scope of the VCF.
$500,000 - Estimated amount of money it cost to plan and execute the 9/11 attacks.
$123 billion - Estimated economic loss during the first 2-4 weeks after the World Trade Center towers collapsed in New York City, as well as decline in airline travel over next few years
$60 billion - Estimated cost of the WTC site damage, including damage to surrounding buildings, infrastructure and subway facilities.
$40 billion - Value of the emergency anti-terrorism package approved by the U.S. Congress on September 14, 2001.
$15 billion - Aid package passed by Congress to bail out the airlines.
$9.3 billion - Insurance claims arising from the 9/11 attacks.
Cleanup at Ground Zero:
May 30, 2002 - Cleanup at Ground Zero officially ends .
It took 3.1 million hours of labor to clean up 1.8 million tons of debris.
The total cost of cleanup was $750 million.
The Department of Homeland Security was created in response to September 11.
It merged 22 governmental agencies into one, including the Customs Service, the Immigration and Naturalization Service, the U.S. Coast Guard and the Federal Emergency Management Agency.
The Dept. of Homeland Security placed 130 U.S. inspectors at ports in major European, Asian and Muslim nations, as well as strategically-located ports, to inspect cargo for nuclear, chemical or biological weapons being smuggled into the U.S.
March 12, 2002 - The Homeland Security Advisory System is introduced.
April 26, 2011 - The National Terrorism Advisory System (NTAS) replaces the color-coded Homeland Security Advisory System (HSAS).
Unfortunately there was a great impact left on this world because of this tragedy, which will forever remain somewhat confused in our memories. On September 11, 2001 my daughter Joy Monay Perez was 1 year old and my son Jerry Vernardo Perez Jr. was 6 years old, he was in 1st grade attending Evangelical School which was a private Christian School he had been attending since pre-school. At the time this tragedy was occurring I was living in my Hometown, Chicago ILLinois. On September 11, 2001 during the tragedy I was purchasing my sons school uniforms at a Private School Uniform Headquarters retail store, my big sister Mary was with me also at the time. We walked into the store while the woman behind the counter was watching TV, she asked "have you heard what has happened?". This was after the first plane crashed into the World Trade Center. We were all shocked and lost for words. On my way back home I prayed for my family and for this entire world, then cried like a baby. I still have a very sensitive feeling towards what has happened on that Day. Now here we are exactly 14 years later, my daughter is now a young lady who is 15 years of age. A straight 'A' student, who has loved and enjoyed school since pre-school. It seems her love for school has greatly increased since then. She is very active and extremely dedicated when it comes to her home work, her studies and her before and after school involvement in extra-curriculum activities. She is on the girls basketball team, she participated in baskeball camp this summer and in marching band camp at her school. She is in the marching band and jazz band at her school, the compete in competitions, perform at her schools football games and they perform at school concerts. The instrument she plays are the drums in both bands. She wants to learn how to play the trambone, the keyboard and the guitar on this year all by learning how to read the music and she will. She had an opportunity to join the marching band on last year which was her first year in High School even at the last minute after try-outs was over, her teacher was going to give her a spot in marching band, but she didn't want to do it at the time, but now of course she a part of it and she loves it. Her music teacher attends Phoenix First Church also, where he and his wife are part of the music ministry in which they both play different instruments during praise and worship. Her music teacher has chosen her to play the drums in the Phoenix First Christmas production play, which is a huge production that takes place around the Christmas Holiday with live animals included. So excited for her. So amazing how years ago when we first started going to Phoenix First I spoke I wanted my kids to play and participate in their drama and music ministry and now here we go years later, at least one of them for now soon will. Now how AMAZING IS THAT!!! Her schedule for this school year is full and she is handling it well as she always does. Her school marching band will participate in a September 11 parade on today, here in AZ. Her teacher is a great guy. I love it when real talent is not going un-noticed, especially when it is my childrens talent. One thing she does everyday before leaving out to go to school is solve her rubiks cube, which is something she learned to do in records time, while attending Kings Ridge Preparatory Academy Middle School, it still only takes her a few seconds to solve it. So very Amazing, this girl. Her focus level is at an extremely high standard, Awesome, Excellent.....
Will add more to this Blog later tonight.........so feel free to return back here for more. Got to go for now......Spread unconditional love all around, stay in peace and BE SAFE EVERYONE!
By mwp1, Aug 9 2015 4:16PM
Spending some time with the most significant person in your life, YOU.....Well worth it......
For many, alone is a negative state of being. Society doesn’t help with this either; being alone often carries a social stigma, implying isolation, being on the outside. This perceived sense of aloneness seems to imply that being by one’s self is not volitional, that it’s not a choice we make but rather, an imposed state where a person is not socially engaged in the way that is somehow expected. Even further, it may imply that there is something actually wrong or defective with a person who remains alone.
Social media gives us the impression---the illusion---that we are connected even if it’s only interacting with somebody’s words. Clicking “like” is the abbreviated form of saying, “I hear you and I agree”. Comments serve as conversation as if we had really interacted with that person in real time. Without this connection through devices that keep us informed to the minute we may feel anxious that we will be alone and left out. But I believe that most of us really know in our heart of hearts that our constant focus on this kind of communication deprives us of having real human interaction. Even more importantly, this kind of communication may keep us from having meaningful communion with ourselves.
Unlike being alone, loneliness often implies that you are looking for someone or something that you feel you need in order to feel secure and happy. For some, loneliness may be a chronic condition where your own company is never enough; where spending time with yourself may produce anxiety and sometimes worse symptoms such as panic attacks and depression. For many, the perceived solution to keep this fear away is to make sure that you are always in the company of another.
Of course, Loneliness is not “one size fits all”. As with anything, there may be varying degrees of severity depending upon one’s personality and life experiences. For example, loneliness may be experienced by some as a painful reminder of previous loss and abandonment---feeling rejected, not cared for, or unloved.
Although alone and lonely are often thought of as being one in the same, alone doesn’t equal loneliness. Learning to be alone may be initially scary but once mastered serves as the cornerstone for your development and growth as a human being. There’s so much to be gained from learning to rely, and more importantly, to trust your own inner voice as the best source for your own guidance.
Being alone allows you to drop your “social guard”, thus giving you the freedom to be introspective, to think for yourself. You may be able to make better choices and decisions about who you are and what you want without outside influence. Often, we are swayed by the thoughts, feelings, attitudes, beliefs, and behavior of those in our immediate sphere. Of course, you may ask others for their advice and opinions but ultimately, consulting yourself and making up your own mind about what you want to do will lead you into the life that’s best for you.
More specifically, learning how to be alone may serve you well when it comes to knowing what you need and want in a relationship. Some individuals allow their partner to tell them what to feel, what to want and do, largely because that is what their partner wants and needs. Certain relationships even require this. So if you’re too afraid to be alone and function on your own you’ll be selling yourself out, settling for a relationship (often not the healthiest, and sometimes, downright bad) that insures that you’re NEVER alone. The bottom line is that you cannot possibly have a healthy relationship with others if you haven’t learned to have a healthy relationship with yourself.
People love to quote that line from Jerry Maguire, “You complete me.” I know it’s very romantic but what does it really say? That we’re not complete without another? Being alone allows you to access yourself as the complete person you already are.
There doesn’t have to be a pathological reason to explain your anxiety about being alone. Fear of being alone may be simply a function of never having learned to do it! It may never have been encouraged and so the idea of it may feel alien and uncomfortable. Once you begin to venture into this territory you may find that your comfort about being alone increases. You may actually crave that time you spend by yourself.
Here’s a note about raising children today. Many kids are hovered over and micromanaged. Very different from days gone by when children frequently had more time on their own alone and had to learn how to occupy themselves. While giving children a lot of opportunity to try various activities, we may be depriving them of this valuable time to learn how to be comfortable with themselves and to become resourceful. So alone time is a healthy thing to introduce early on to children who will carry the practice into their future lives.
You may want to start small if being alone is new to you. Carve out time every week to be by yourself (or an hour a day if you can). Take yourself solo to a movie or dinner. Venture to new places. Explore. Be adventurous. Build on the small to take bigger and bigger risks. If you were to remain alone as a lifestyle assess what that might mean---living without a partner, being responsible for yourself, your choices and decisions, traveling solo, managing your own finances, creating a full and complete life for yourself. Even though you may want to be in relationship, can you be in a meaningful relationship with yourself if you had to?
Take heart and example from the Great Masters. They embarked on solitary journeys to probe the depths of their being and to find answers in revelatory, transformative experiences. Spiritually, being alone may bring you closer to your inner being, allowing you to more readily access the creative and intuitive aspects of yourself.
Give yourself the gift of your own time and energy---there’s nothing more worth it. Love and Enjoy being with yourself. Be in complete peace and in total harmony with yourself.
Taking time out to be alone with self does not take you completely away from having social involvement with others whenever you want and are available to do so.
KNOW HOW TO genuinely LOVE AND CARE DEEPLY ABOUT SELF. DO DAILY SELF EXAMINATIONS, GET TO KNOW MORE ABOUT YOU. GREAT AND UNIQUE IN YOUR OWN SPECIAL WAY, IN SUCH A UNIQUE WAY THAT YOU CAN NEVER BE DUPLICATED.
WELL THIS IS ALL I HAVE TO SHARE WITH YOU FOR NOW IN TODAYS BLOG TALK. THANKS MUCH FOR STOPPING BY, YOU ARE ALL GREAAAAAATLY APPRECIATED. Just as Tony the Tiger would say, "Your're Greeeeeat", spoken in your beautiful unique voice.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE INFLUENCE....click on this link to read 1 CORINTHIANS 13
Martha Wooden (RYM-TYM & OH! RADIO SHOW Creator/Host)
Remember to keep Smiling GOD LOVES YOU and I-I-I-I do too.....
God's love is A genuine, unconditonal, very special, unique to you and a very personal LOVE that you would never have to question or doubt.
Thanks much for visiting, viewing, listening and reading
I LEAVE YOU IN PEACE!!!!!!
By mwp1, Jul 23 2015 8:07PM
Remind yourself of how important it is to love what you do. I’ve never met anyone that jumps out of bed at the sound of their alarm excited to go to work, but you have to have moments. Not saying that people with this type of attitude doesn't exists any more or at all in this world. As with anything, there will be ups and downs. There will be moments that you could cry from frustration, there will be technical glitches and mistakes made and times of financial stress. If you are a business owner, there will be a million things on your plate at once, and if you are an employee – there will be a boss to tell you all the things you didn’t do right. It’s all part of it. In order to be successful, though, you have to experience those moments that could bring you to (happy) tears. Those moments where you take a deep breath and think “this is why I do this”.
For a teacher, this could be watching the light bulb go off in your students head when they finally understand something. For a doctor or nurse, it could be as big as saving someone’s life, or as small as putting a band aid on a kid so they smile again. For a personal trainer or Counselor, it could be seeing results in the lives of their clients. Everyone has something that makes their hard work worth it at the end of the day.
It could be something as much as hearing the voice on the other end of the phone when you congratulated someone on getting the job they needed or wanted. It’s every time you are able to help someone take a step forward. It truly does not matter whether we’re talking about a six figure salary or $10 an hour. The feeling is the same. Affecting positive change in people’s lives is what every day boils down to – and in moments of chaos it can be easy to forget why we do what we do.
On the next Monday morning when you’re running late, your phone is ringing off the hook, you spill your coffee, lose an opportunity, or don’t close a deal – take a second and remind yourself that it’s all part of life. There will be ups and downs, and your sunny Friday when your coffee is just right and your client is happy and you’re out to work on time – is just around the corner. Remember the moments that make you love your job. As they say, “Doing what you love is freedom. Loving what you do is happiness.”
Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.
Small people always do that, but the great ones make you feel that you, too, can become great. If someone is strong enough to bring you down, show them you’re strong enough to continue to stand tall or get back up again. Let go of them, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.
If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission. Overcome the notion that you must be regular. It robs you of the chance to be extraordinary. If you want something, don’t wish for it. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WAIT. Whatever you want to do, do it now. For life is time and time is all there is. It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop. Doing what you feel in your heart to be right- for you will be criticized anyway. Where there is LOVE and INSPIRATION, You can never go wrong.
This life is YOURS.
Your life is your message to the world. Make sure it’s inspiring.
Take the power to choose what you want to do and DO IT WELL.
Take the power to love what you want in life and LOVE IT HONESTLY.
Take the power to control your own life, NO ONE ELSE CAN DO IT FOR YOU.
Take the power to make your life HAPPY.
The happiest people in the world don’t have the best of everything,
they just make the best out of everything they have.
It’s hard to wait around for something you know might never happen,
but it’s even harder to give up when you think it’s everything you’ve ever wanted.
So just don’t give up, for the beginning is always the hardest.
Nobody can go back and start a new beginning.
But anyone can start today and make a new ending.
Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.
Some blunders and absurdities may creep in but forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day.
You shall begin it serenely and with high spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.
This journey has molded you for the greater good.
It was exactly what it needed to be.
So don’t think you have lost time, for it took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to what you have become.
Even if the path is a little blurry, keep walking.
You’ll focus in, when you know what you want.
Then the picture of your life will be crystal clear.
Walk with the DREAMERS, the BELIEVERS, the COURAGEOUS, the ENCOURAGERS, the CHEERFUL, the PLANNERS, the DOERS, the SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground.
Let their spirit ignite a fire within you to leave this world better than, when you found it.
There is no telling how many miles you will have to run while chasing a dream.
DON’T JUST FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS, STALK THEM, MAKE THEM YOURS…
Love What You Do
If you love what you do, then it is no longer work. The money you earn is secondary when you love your work. Money can never buy happiness, or peace of mind.
Those who continue to work at a job they hate for the money alone are more likely to be stressed, and very unhappy. They live for their vacations and weekends. Unfortunately, they are sadly missing out on the happiness of everyday life. It is better to receive less money and be happy with what you are doing, than to receive lots of money and hate what you are doing.
"Profit is a by-product of work; happiness is its chief product."
When you love your work, you look forward to each day. Your attitude changes from one where you are counting the days to the weekend, to one where you enjoy your weekend, but look forward to your return of work.
Unfortunately, not many people have found this quality. Often, people stay in jobs that they despise rather than taking a risk by changing their work to an area that they love. Sometimes, we fall into the trap of thinking we are secure in our positions, and believe it is better to remain where we are rather than change jobs.
Inspirational and freedom Quotes:
"The great thing in this world is not so much where we are, but in what direction we are moving."
Oliver Wendell Holmes
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” -Joshua J. Marine
“In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.” –Bill Cosby
“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, or worn. It is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude.” -Denis Waitley
“The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle.” -Steve Jobs
“Do not pray for an easy life, pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.” -Bruce Lee
“If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them.” -Bruce Lee
“Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.” -Stephen Covey
“The key question to keep asking is, Are you spending your time on the right things? Because time is all you have.” -Randy Pausch
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” -Maria Robinson
“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” –Conrad Hilton
“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.” -Albert Einstein
“Life can be 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.” -Dennis Kimbro
“Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will.” -Mahatma Gandhi
“Success is not to be measured by the position someone has reached in life, but the obstacles he has overcome while trying to succeed.” -Booker T. Washington
“It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are.” –E.E. Cummings
“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” –George Eliot
“Failure is the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” –Henry Ford
“If it doesn’t challenge you, it doesn’t change you.” -Fred Devito
“Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you once thought you couldn’t do.” -Rikki Rogers
“Without self-discipline, success is impossible, period.” -Lou Holtz
“If you’re going through hell, keep going.” -Winston Churchill
“There is no education like adversity.” -Disraeli
“Adversity introduces a man to himself.” -
“Excellence is the gradual result of always striving to do better.” -Pat Riley
“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” -Michael Jordan
“Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you ought to set up a life you don’t need to escape from.” – Seth Godin
“There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.”–Nelson Mandela
“Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” –Thomas A. Edison
"The difference between school and life? In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.” –Tom Bodett
“And in the end it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” – Abraham Lincoln
“If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” – Jim Rohn
“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.” -Will Rogers
“Don’t be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“A sign of wisdom and maturity is when you come to terms with the realization that your decisions cause your rewards and consequences. You are responsible for your life, and your ultimate success depends on the choices you make.” – Denis Waitley
“If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.” -Milton Berle
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
“We cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” -Randy Pausch
“Too many people go through life complaining about their problems. I’ve always believed that if you took one tenth the energy you put into complaining and applied it to solving the problem, you’d be surprised by how well things can work out.” -Randy Pausch
“If you can’t be criticized for it, it’s probably not remarkable. Are you devoting yourself to something devoid of criticism?” -
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” -Theodore Roosevelt
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” -Winston Churchill
“If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward.” -Martin Luther King Jr.
“Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” -Robert Louis Stevenson
“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” -Mae West
“For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” -Abraham Lincoln
“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” -John Wooden
“To educate a person in the mind but not in morals is to educate a menace to society.” -Theodore Roosevelt
“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” –Winston Churchill
“Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” –Jim Rohn
“This is the miracle that happens every time to those who really love; the more they give, the more they possess.” -Rainer Maria Rilke
“Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” –Robert A. Heinlein
“A man who dares to waste one hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” –Charles Darwin
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.” –Mark Twain
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” -Howard Thurman
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face; You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
“I am who I am today because of the choices I made yesterday.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
“We all die. The goal isn’t to live forever. The goal is to create something that will.” -Chuck Palahniuk
“ We have to allow ourselves to be loved by the people who really love us, the people who really matter. Too much of the time, we are blinded by our own pursuits of people to love us, people that don’t even matter, while all that time we waste and the people who do love us have to stand on the sidewalk and watch us beg in the streets! It’s time to put an end to this. It’s time for us to let ourselves be loved. ” -C. Joybell C.
“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.” -Brandi Snyder
“Love is a condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” -Robert Heinlein
"Love is more than a noun—it is a verb; it is more than a feeling—it is caring, sharing, helping, sacrificing.” -William Arthur Ward
"The goal is not to be better than the other man, but your previous self."
"Don't let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace."
"Know who you are, love who you are so when others speak on what they think or believe they know of who you are and what you are about, it would never matter to you therefore you will never waste your precious time convincing them other wise or proving them to be so wrong."
"Follow your heart, your passion, your instincts and your dreams, not followers who advise you to follow the way or flattery of others."
Hope you Greatly Enjoyed this Encouraging, Inspiring and Uplifting BLOG TALK.
Remember to be yourself and be very proud to be who you are with no strings attached. YOUR UNIQUE SELF IS WHAT THIS WORLD NEEDS MOST. WHAT ARE YOU DAILY DOING WHEN NO ONE ELSE TRULY KNOWS, BUT YOU, GOD AND THE IMPACT YOU HAVE LEFT BEHIND ON THAT SOMEONE OR ON SOMETHING THAT GREATLY NEEDED IT. Make an effective difference wherever and on whomever it would matter the most. WHEN YOU DEVELOP A GENUINE LOVE FOR ANYTHING THAT YOU DO, YOU WILL DO IT AT YOUR VERY BEST, HAVING GREAT SUCCESS. Let no one OR nothing ever make you believe, feel or do less. Remember some truly do not know better in order to do better, when it comes to how to treat others with genuine love, respect and kindness.
FOOD FOR THOUGHT: Make sure that you mind and are very familiar with how to effectively handle your own business.
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UNCONDITIONAL LOVE INFLUENCE....click on this link to read 1 CORINTHIANS 13
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Martha Wooden (RYM-TYM & OH! RADIO SHOW Creator/Host)
Remember to keep Smiling GOD LOVES YOU and I-I-I-I do too.....
God's love is A genuine, unconditonal, very special, unique to you and a very personal LOVE that you would never have to question or doubt.
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By mwp1, Jul 13 2015 2:38AM
One of the most common difficulties heard about when people make changes such as implementing boundaries and basically treating themselves with love, care, trust, and respect, is that they discover that where they may have lacked boundaries with their relationships, there have also been issues with their friendships.
Even if you've had a lot of the same friends for a very long time, which is fortunate, but when you learn to love yourself even more, it turned out that you had been giving shelter to ‘friends’, who like Mr Unavailables, detracted and relied on you in being someone who didn’t always act in your own best interests.
Examples: The friend or family member who is angry because after countless times of them using you like a taxi service at all hours, you’ve finally said NO.
The friend or family member who asks if you can keep an eye on their child one evening and then drops the child around every evening…without asking, assuming that you wouldn't mind until you finally inform them that that is not acceptable without respectfully asking you to make sure.
The friend or family member who gets angry because they made plans, assumed you would do a task for them, and then is surprised when you say NO.
The friend or family member who just assumes you’ll pay for everything all of the time and won’t put their hand in their pocket and then gets mad when for the first time, you rightly ask them to pay for their own share.
The friend or family member who loves telling you who you should be and gets mad at you when you won’t follow their advice, even though it may not be in your best interests. Not accepting you for who you are or wanting you to change who you are to their satisfaction. Or just wanting to have say in who you should be in order for you to fit in better into their or someone elses small world.
Change is not something that just affects you; it has a ripple effect on the relationships attached to you. There are relationships that will embrace the difference in you and be happy that you are taking care of yourself even if it impacts on things that you may or may not do as a result of it.
There are also other relationships where the person will feel inconvenienced, threatened, or confused – these people see you changing as something that negatively impacts on them. It could be that it casts an uncomfortable light on them forcing them to see their own behaviours, or that it makes them feel left behind in your old life, that they feel inconvenienced because you are not as amenable (easily controlled or more cooperative) as you used to be, which now makes it much more difficult for them to take advantage of and abuse you, or they feel inadequate and are scared they will lose you and so they put up resistance against your change, against the new you or the you in which they never allowed themselves to get to truly know or accept.
In some instances, you may have been heavy handed with boundaries, something that can happen when you feel like you’ve been a yes person and temporarily see saying yes, even if it’s to something good, to turn out to be as some sort of negative, because of the problems it begins to create after a while or even at first.
You can also find that some friendships and family members are emotionally demanding with too many expectations that cross into your boundaries and it’s important to put some distance and establish boundaries to stop or avoid co-dependency and control, which displays lack of respect for who you are and choose to be as an individual person who has established for their life needed boundaries, discipline and guidelines that even your friends and family members should have no issues with honoring and respecting.
Boundaries are there, not to trap you in chains and shut people out, but to free you to enjoy a positive, healthy experience in line with your values that let’s you love, live, and like without lacking self-esteem.
If your boundaries keep certain people out that’s OK – they’re supposed to. You’re not a free for all!
If you’ve not had boundaries and surrounded yourself with people who have at best taken advantage of your lack of boundaries, and at worst, abused them, then yes, initially when you live your life with boundaries there is going to be a short-term knock-on effect. It’s tough, but it’s life.
If these people resist the fact that you are not prepared to allow yourself to be abused, taken advantage of, and do anything that feels at odds with your own personal happiness, it’s because a you with boundaries doesn’t work for them. Which is too bad.
While there is always room for compromise with any relationship (not just romantic), if you are compromising where it causes you to compromise yourself and to avoid conflict and hold on to friends or family members, then this is not a healthy compromise.
Friends, such as in a romantic friendship, should not require you to be compromised so that they can be happy, whether that’s because they blatantly (offensively) expect you to do it and demand it, or because you compromise yourself so you can hold on to these type of friendships.
It’s dangerous to be in a romantic relationship because you’d rather have them on any terms rather than none, the same applies to a friendship and a family member relationship.
At what cost are you prepared to have people around you that you can bag and tag as pseudo (artificial, insincere, non genuine, fake, pretend, deceptive or phony) friends? Not suggesting that you shouldn’t have friends – Only saying that just like relationships, make better choices and carry yourself authentically and down to earth, as an loving individual with some valued boundaries so that you can have a better quality of friends otherwise you will end up with inauthentic friendships or a certain type of negative people in general in your circle.
If when you come up against resistance from a friend or family member because you’re not prepared to do something it translates to, ‘They are mad at me because I won’t do something that I’m really uncomfortable with and it would have me living outside of my values’, then you have to stand behind your decision. While you can of course, look for a healthy compromise. But if they’re asking you to do something that is fundamentally wrong for you, then no compromising at all should take place, just don’t do it.
Really, the same core things apply at the heart of any type of relationship – there needs to be boundaries in every last relationship that you have – not just romantic. Your boundaries are basically your personal electric fence and you consciously and subconsciously use these to navigate everything from work, family, friends, acquaintances, strangers etc.
Like all relationships, shared values are what will actually tie or bond your relationship and cause it to endure. As discovered in becoming a mother, it takes more than procreating around the same time, getting a c-section scar or some vaginal tears, and having a child, to give you something in common with another person!
Just like when you’re in the diffterent types of relationships, you could share a gazillion interests but if those values are off, that person will leave you feeling confused or if you try to swing over to their values corner, it can have you acting out of sync with your usual and familiarly known self. Who wants to fake it. As for me, I am not good at pretending, it will show up in my atititude, my facial expression or in the tone of my voice as well as in the words I speak when expressing myself. The real you will later be exposed, it could never stay hidden forever. I will easily expose my self, when not being the true me. So I have to keep it real by continuously being me. My staff and my bosses have had the opportunity to get to know me for who I truly am as a woman not only of authority, but also as an individual who freely gives out the same respect, love, concern, treatment and consideration to others in which I expect, deserve and demand the same to be returned. I am very good at what I do, I admit I can get a little lazy at times and have my ungrateful moments, which are not good, but I can truly say that I Martha Wooden, am very good at what I do. Let me re·phrase this; what i am trying to say is that I at times want to be lazy and I at times feel like doing nothing, but my children, my lifes goals and my job doesn't allow me to go in that direction, which is a wonderful thing, it all keeps me going and keeps me on my feet in a very postitive way. They all are in high demand of my time, my gifts and my attention. Make a choice to willingly get along with anyone, even the most difficult person can be won over, although we may not always be up for the challenge. It can feel like a waste of time when dealing with someone who refuses and who has made a bad choice for whatever the reason may be to become a difficult person. If it doesn't work out, hey, at least you tried to get along with them. No we are not perfect individuals, but it helps to make yourself more and more aware of you and your carefully illustrated everyday actions in your dealings with others. We should put a command on ourselves.
Your mission and purpose is to learn how to do better and better by one another, which can only begin once we are open and willing to do the necessary work that is needed to create and continue the peace that has already been freely given to us all which only needs to be re-connected starting from one person to the next. Doing unto others the same as we would want others to do unto us, with a mature level of knowledge and understanding as to how to sucessfully execute this action is what is require of us all.
It may not be easy to give out the benefit of the doubt and many chances to someone who may willingly show lack of interest in wanting to get things right, but at least you didn't give up so very easily on them. Not saying that you gave up at all, you just had to take another type of tough love approach. It proves that you allowed yourself to show mercy, patience, compassion, sympathy, unconditional love, empathy and great concern towards them and the situation. Ignoring and crossing the boundary lines that are set in place for many reasons by others should not be disrespected or crossed willingly. We all experience temptations and trials in our lives which may come from circumstances that may involve food, finances, our health, family, friends, strangers, others as well as ourselves and whatever else. Some of us pass the temptations and trials that come before us and some of us fail. Some of us quickly learn the life lessons or get the message that comes from the experience of trials and temptations. There are some of us who will over time get the message and learn what may be needed, but there are also some of us who may never get the message nor learn the life lesson needed that may come from the many experiences of trials and temptations. Who wants to see the other side of a person whom you are used to displaying kind, respectful, caring, fair and loving behavior towards you. Realize that this person has control and discipline when it comes to how they display their disposition, concealing so very well that negative side of them, but can also allow that side of them which is not often seen by others to be revealed and be put on display if they truly wanted to while being in the midst of experiencing pressure and challenges while dealing with negative situations or while dealing with negative people. No one else should have to feel your wrath when you are not experiencing a good day, you are entitled to get angry but you should not want to take it out on the rest of the people that exist in this world whom surrounds you. Instead put forth the greatest effort ever to try with all your might and with the will power that is hidden deep inside you to stay positive and optimistic towards life and towards others, which of course is not always a very easy task especially when those negative emotions try so hard to over power you. Showing some discipline in regards to your mood swing, emotions and actions that are revealed to others when you are experiencing a good day as opposed to when you are experiencing a bad day.
This is a known truth; how old you are does not at all determine where your level of maturity is. You can lack wisdom, knowledge and understanding at any age.
I can be stubborn to the core of my being, which can have a negative impact on your life as well as positive, depending on why you are allowing yourself to be so stubborn. The positive side of stubborn, you are not easily pursuaded or influenced by others, especially in a negative way, this character trait can somehow shield, cover or protect you. The negative side of being stubborn, although not occuring all the time but you can find yourself challenging almost everyone even the person that may know what they are truly talking about or knows what they are truly doing, which can make you miss out on great opportunities in getting to know someone who could have been of positive assistance to you in some sort of special way. Although I have accepted this stubborn trait which makes me who I uniquely am, I believe that this trait is there for a good reason. How you decide to be the you that you truly are is totally up to you. Establish boundaries not only for others to honor and respect, but also for yourself so that you can show respect, honor, discipline, love and control towards self for your very own personal life. I asked God why did He create me to be so stubborn? Did you or is this a trait that I somehow ended up with? Just was wondering....
I also realized that I am operating in a similar way as my dad use to. One thing I loved about how my dad was was that people respected him which showed a sign of fear towards him, which is not in a negative way a sign of others having a great deal of respect and honor towards you. He was looked upon and treated as a man who walked in great authority and dominion over all things in this earth. He reminded me of the godfather when I was younger. Whomever was angry with him because of who he was and how he presented himself as a person with power, authority and confidence, was just going to have to be angry or bring order to themselves. They had no other choice but to fall in line with the divine power and position that God had bestowed upon his life in this world among them. There was nothing that not one person could do about it, nothing. That is exactly how I saw people behave towards my Dad. Known as by others as well as by his family members, to be a powerful man of God.
Now getting back to what I was originally discussing in this Blog Talk:
Any relationship as well as established Friendships even when you’re dating, require you each to behave with integrity, to act with care, to act with trust and be trustworthy, to show loyalty, to be respected and respectful. You may not ‘love’ someone that you are friends with (unless you’re close friends) but that doesn’t stop you from acting with the same care and consideration that you would expect for yourself.
Mutual understandings established in a romantic relationship can make that relationship very sucessful, more agreeable, more loving and tolerable, but not all friendships are created equal and built to last. People have friends for various different reasons and which may not actually be aligned with your own reasons and also which may have different ideas of what they feel constitutes a friendship – this is a classic example of different values. If their idea of a friendship is one where they wield (hold, exercise or control) power over you and step all over your laid out boundaries, it is not a friendship that you should want to be involved in.
Proceed with caution with any ‘friend’ who pulls the whole ‘If you were a real friend, you’d do X, Y, Z’ because....... and just replace ‘friend’ with ‘girlfriend’ or ‘boyfriend’ or the type of 'family member' and listen to how crass (ignorant, stupid, tasteless, insensitive or thoughtless) that sounds.
That said, when you are making big changes in your life, it’s important to recognise that not everybody will be on board or some will not quite be at the same pace. You have to manage your change.
This doesn’t mean to beat around the bush with your friends or family member because at the end of the day, you’re entitled to act with love, care, trust, and respect, but recognise that it may take a bit of time for some to ‘acclimatize’ (adjust, adapt or become accomodating) to the new you. It won’t necessarily be that they want you to not act in your best interests but it may be that they have become uncertain about where they fit in, with you.
While you addressing your own needs may feel all consuming to you and a major priority, it may be difficult for some friends or family member to feel it to the same extent. They may not ‘get’ what you’re going through especially if stuff like having boundaries and living in line with their values is foreign to them. Talk to them, tell them what you’re experiencing. When you explain, don’t do it to seek validation because it’s up to you to be behind your decision but tell them because you want them to continue to be a part of your life.
However one common mistake that people make is trying to get their friends or family member who they deem to need changing too, to adapt with them – be careful of preaching your new gospel as at times it may inadvertently come across that you’re ‘down’ on their choices. May come across as if you are being judgemental.
Sometimes when you say NO, it’s not because of any particular boundary per se; it’s because for whatever reason, you don’t want to do it. It could be that it is inconvenient, it could be that you don’t like whatever it is that’s being asked or expected, and sometimes, you just don’t want to. Sometimes we don't always know why we don’t want to do something.
If you can on balance, reflect and say to yourself that there are plenty of other occasions that you have said YES, then that’s OK. We don’t have to do everything that everyone asks of us. If you’re saying NO for the sake of it, while you’re entitled to, recognise that if it’s a reasonable request, you may come across as being ‘unfriendly’. Although you are entitled to deciding for yourself, it is your own preference.
But remember that if you have trained people to expect a YES from you, it will surprise them when you say NO. In their mind, they will have already planned around gaining agreement from you, so it will ‘mess up’ their plans. They will have to adapt. That doesn’t mean you should do it – no friend or family member has any right to expect that you will do everything that they ask but step into their shoes from a moment and recognise that they’re not ‘used’ to a you that says NO, whether it’s because you just don’t feel like it or because it goes against your values and would have you feeling very uncomfortable.
One of the best things that you can do to manage the changes with your friends or family member is to be up front. It doesn’t mean you won’t experience resistance and tension, but it will save the changes from feeling sudden and aggressive. For example, for the person who expects the friend or family member to pay for everything, drop it into a conversation before you are out that you won’t be paying for it this time, that way they can choose whether they still want to go out. Yes it will hurt if they no longer want to do something because you won’t pay, but at least you’ll know where you stand with them.
If you know that you have some shady friends or family members, take precaution and put your foot down very firmly and don’t lose sleep over explaining why. But if they are fairly decent friends or family members and you’re surprised by their resistance, explain your position. But remember, you shouldn’t have to justify why you’re treating yourself decently and people who genuinely care about you, will adapt to your boundaries in time. Be yourself consistently and they will get used to it but do recognise that if you have unhealthy relationships with some that they may not survive your changes. However, much like a toxic relationship, it’s not healthy to hold on to a toxic friendship or (although this may be your family) even a toxic family member.
Choose wisely for yourself and remember that boundaries are set in place to protect you and to help others to respect and honor your choices, your space and your life in a much better way with them also needing to gaine the right understanding and knowledge as to why this is so very important to you and for your positive growth as a driven unique individual, who has direction and purpose for your life.
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